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Here is the thing last week I turned 50 and I could write about how great it was and how I got so many great presents, but this is not a post about the good things that happened on my birthday nope it’s a post about the things that sucked and I am not talking about turning 50 that didn’t bother me…………
What I am talking about is that on my birthday I was silly and expected Tim to come home from work and take me out for tea (dinner) but no he didn’t feel like going out, about 5 minutes after he got home I went to talk to him and asked him what we were doing for tea and he shrugged and said he didn’t know, I said I thought we might have done something nice since it was a special day and he just shrugged again, in the end we ordered pizza well pizza for him as I don’t eat pizza any more I had chessy garlic bread and some so so hot chips………….so that sucked…………
Now I didn’t expect a party because let’s be honest unless I arrange it, it doesn’t happen but I did ask for a baked lunch at my parents place on the Sunday and that was ok my sister Jeannie came which was great and a couple of nieces Sam & Tina……………..However only one of my daughters (Jessica) turned up Kathy-Lee was very tired and my granddaughter Sydney-May was feeling sick so they didn’t come but I could tell that Kathy felt bad about not going so I said I was alright with her not coming but of course I really wasn’t then there is my daugher Natasha she didn’t come either. She told mum that she didn’t know about the lunch but I know I mentioned it to her and she had told me she would be there, anyway we have had lunches at my parents place to celebrate family members birthdays for as long as she has been alive so she should had know ………….did she ask anyone if they were doing anything for my birthday…………..NO…………
Now every year I have hinted and by hinted said I want a cake but I never get one anyway this year I didn’t say anything about a cake and guess what I STILL DIDN’T GET A CAKE…………yeah no cake again this year…….
I did get a lot of great presents from my family including a trip to New Zealand from my husband Tim but I have not got a present from Natasha as yet but that shouldn’t come as a surprise she sucks at giving presents…………….
My sister Sue also didn’t turn up for my birthday lunch and that was upsetting, she had told mum she wasn’t ready to face the family but hell she has seen everyone but our brother Dave and if she waits till Dave forgets what she said to mum she will be an old woman when that happens…………
So all in all I had a good birthday with some dissapointments but hell I guess that is life…………
That is a sad story. I think you should tell them how disappointed you are that they didn't care to help you celebrate such an important birthday. Let them know how you feel.
ReplyDeleteI could tell them but to be honest I just can't see the point, I will be fine and get over it and move on and hell I am going to New Zealand........
Deletei agree with Diane. you should tell them how you feel because if you don't tell them how will they know. unless they read your blog of course. it must be very disappointing for you. :(
ReplyDeleteI don't see the point in trying to explain how I feel, I know Tim doesn't get it and I don't think my daugher would get it either.......
DeleteI can imagine how disappointed you were by certain daughters and sisters not turning up, and Tim really should have known better. After all, it was a very special birthday. I don't know, you do so much for your family, and I know you love them dearly, but they should have put a bit more thought into this for you. No cake - that really does suck!!
ReplyDeleteAll Tim would say is I am taking you to New Zealand isn't that good enough, he has a way of trying to twist it round and make me feel like I am in the wrong
DeleteDearest Jo-Anne,
ReplyDeleteYou ARE the most caring wife, mother and grandmother I know☆☆☆
So sorry about these disappointment!!! And I would certainly get crossed with my husband if he reacted like that on such a special day.
Well, I feel so sorry for my absence. Visiting father (he is ok at the moment) and husband finding things he can do some things inside of our old house like painting the rails. Needs me to fetch things and all p;)
Lots of love and hugs from sis-city in Japan, xoxo Miyako*
Thank you for those kind words, Tim doesn't get why I was upset about not going out for dinner......
DeleteWe can't control what other people do, so enjoy your wonderful trip to NZ (I'm still trying not to be jealous!). Your family members will probably be feeling some guilt, too~
ReplyDeleteI will I am very excited about going to New Zealand only a few more days now I have started packing....
DeleteA trip! That's a wonderful gift!
ReplyDeleteI know your feeling--it sucks to have a birthday pass unnoticed. That happens to me pretty much every year.
Yes it is and I am so lucky and so excited about going, at least this year my birthday was a bit better then past years........I just really wanted a cake........lol
DeleteOnce upon a time I would put signs up at work: "Chris' birthday tommorow- bring gifts." That never worked either.
ReplyDeleteAt least this year I didn't have to buy my own presents and yes I have done that in past years.....
DeleteMy life tends to be a series of disappointments, so I know how you feel. Next year please remind me about two weeks before your birthday, and I swear I will try to find a way to get you that cake.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
I have had a number of disappointing birthdays including one year when all the girls and Tim forgot about it till I said something.........and have had many years that I had to buy my own presents......I know it is silly to get upset about not getting a cake but I do...........
DeleteJo-Anne, I am so sorry and this makes me know I need to remember my parents birthdays better. But growing up, we never really celebrated birthdays--we were so poor, we usually couldn't, but that was a good reason. It was easier just to let it pass. But it seems like no matter what, we can do something special...even a homemade card is so nice. I hope you found that indulgences email. Let me know. Email me because I paid for it and I want to make sure you get it. Can you call them? You might need a good treatment after your NZ trip. I think you are a wonderful person. Don't be sad. I will be your american daughter ok? If you say ok, it's a deal. :-) And then I won't forget your birthday.
ReplyDeleteI just realized you are only 12 years older than me so it seems funny to have you as my australian mom. Haha! Maybe you can be my aunt!! Haha! I don't care. It's all online so it's doesn't matter. Maybe someday I can come visit you and I will bring a cake. No matter when it is. :-) I always wanted to go to australia.
ReplyDeletedarlin that's just AWFUL, you need to sit em all down and explain the facts of life and i would show em how awful it felt by returning the favor. it's disrespectful to mistreat your mama, they should know how lucky they are to have you..........VERY hot button topic for me as my mama passed when i was 8. gimme their emails and i'll tell em what for GGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
ReplyDeleteWhat a shame you did not get taken out for supper on your actual Birthday. Your husband is going to have to make it up for that error big time on your NZ trip with lots of special meals.
ReplyDeleteTim sounds a little like my hubby. last year i had high hope for going out instead little man and I ate cereal and hubby went o his brothers for a cookout. guess it'a the way when you're married happy to hear overall you had a great birthday
ReplyDeleteI don't get my birthday celebrated... Long story..No one remembers about my birthday, including myself. Now that is something interesting right?
ReplyDeleteMen are great in forgetting the important dates. So, next time why don't we all forget about our husbands' birthdays? I know it is difficult for me, because he is an April Fool.
I'm glad your birthday wasn't all bad and congrats on 50! They should have thrown a party for that milestone. A trip to New Zealand sounds amazing. Take lots of pictures.
ReplyDeleteI think we visualize what the perfect birthday would be in our minds and when it doesn't go as we thought it is very disappointing. I am so sorry you didn't have the day you envisioned but I am so happy that you had some memorable moments.
ReplyDeleteI wish your family could of valdated you more.
ReplyDeleteSad to hear your birthday wasn't great! That's too bad.
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