all can you guess who has been feeling sick for the last few days,
yeah me, aching body, headaches and just feeling kinda blah but it is
now a lovely cool and wet Monday morning and I am feeling pretty much
the same yeah I would love to be still in bed asleep but can't happen
as Leo will be here soon as well as Summer and of course I have to
take Leo to school and Summer will be here till her mum is able to
what has been happening in my life since I last wrote, well nothing
much to be honest. I did have the girls here for lunch on Saturday
and yeah I wasn't feeling good but still managed to do a mince stew
for lunch which everyone seemed to like. Natasha had two lots as did
Jessica, now as some of you will know Natasha often doesn't eat
enough to keep a bird alive so going back for more is out of the
also managed to do all the washing yesterday but had to have a nap as
I was so tired and felt like shit.
night Natasha told me that Jono (Blain's dad) thinks that Blain
should be staying with his mum while Natasha is at work as Tim and I
don't punish Blain and don't feed him right as in don't cook many
real meals. He is right about the meals because often it is just me
and Blain and he doesn't usually want a proper meal, so I can't see
we do try to discipline Blain but he has a right attitude and has
told us that we are not his parents and can't tell him what to do, he
is very cheeky and often talks back and gets this look on his face
and rolls his eyes at us. Yes I know I am a softie but I do try, it
is just not that easy at times. I have no problem with him spending a
night or two at his other grandmothers place she has just as much
right to see Blain as we do, now as I said I am a big softie but at
times I think she is a bit to hard on him but then what do I know I
am not there.
Thursday night we had both Blain and Leo here but what a night at one
stage Blain and Leo got into a bit of a tiff and then Tim got into a
mood, he was so very angry over nothing really yes the boys where
mucking up and Blain was being rude and disrespectful but Tim
over-reacted and was making matters worse. I was calm and told Tim
he was over-reacting and making matters worse which just made Tim
angrier. The only thing all Tim's carry on did was make the boys side
with each other and get over their tiff faster.
was complaining that he had to get up early Friday morning at 3.30am
and needed to go to sleep, the boys were not loud they were in the
bedroom playing the Xbox but when I went to bed I forgot to close the
bedroom door, I like to sleep with it opened and of course Leo came
into our room to ask me if he could have an ice cream, he could but
that made Tim yell that he was woken up and needed to get to sleep,
in fact he kept going on for a few minutes I ended up telling him to
just shut up, he snapped I have to get up at 3.30am and I snapped
back then shut the hell up and go to sleep.
on to Friday night, Tim yet again got so angry this time because Leo
was getting frustrated. Leo had received a bike for his birthday and
Tim had put it together and yesterday evening he was attempting to
ride it and was getting frustrated because it wasn't as easy as he
thought it would be. Tim ended up yelling and carrying on like a
child saying his back hurt and something else can't remember what but
I snapped back that I was on the phone and I also have a bad back, I
always have a lot of back pain. Yet again Tim's anger was over the
you may think I am just bagging on Tim but I am worried about him
these flare ups are a worried, yes he has always had flare ups like
this when the girls were little but I do worry about it. Getting
angry is one thing but he will also say things like why does he
bother or he is wrong and he doesn't matter, he throws his hands in
the air when he starts on his self bashing.
is what worries me being angry is natural but we all don't go on and
on, over-reacting and saying that the family don't love him and he
doesn't matter in the family and if he wasn't here no one would care
or we would be happier if he wasn't around. I would like him to go
back on his medication for depression but he doesn't think he needs
it. I, however, do think he needs it, but I don't know anything
according to Tim.
it is now late in the afternoon, had to stop writing for a while,
first I had to take Tim down the road he had an appointment to have
his eyes checked and was convinced he would not be able to drive home
afterwards. Of course he was able to drive his eyes were not blurry
like he thought they would be.
I had to cook lunch for the family, just a mince stew, everyone ate
it and Natasha even went back for seconds which is a bit of a shock
as she doesn't eat much at all. Then there was washing to hang out
before Tim and I went to Officeworks to get ink for my printer. I
come home and went to change the ink and guess what I bought the
wrong ink so had to go straight back and change it, thankfully
Officeworks is only just around the corner.
helped Leo learn to ride his bike, although when I rang her at
11.25am to see when she would be here and tell her that Leo wanted
his mum to help him with his bike she said I am no good at things
like that, which really annoyed me and Natasha and Kathy she is the
mum she should stop saying things like this are too hard.
at first had a lot of trouble he couldn't balance, and wanted the
training wheels on it but they were shit and wouldn't go on right so
in the end Tim took them off and Leo learnt to ride it without the
was so happy he still having some trouble with his balance but he has
improved a lot and we told him the more he rides it the better he
will get at it.
to Tim for a moment the girls all had a talk to him this morning
about his temper and mood swings, he said he feels like a failure and
they all asked what does he think he failed at. They all think he is
the best dad, they all told him that growing up he was firm but fair
and yes he punished them but he was never abusive or anything.
said dad look at us, none of your children are drug addicts, none
have ever been arrested, they don't have a heap of children with no
job and different fathers all your girls work and support their
children. You have a wife who loves you and you have been with the
same woman for over 30 years which is good. You taught us that
working is part of life and after losing your temper with a child it
is good to go back and have a clam talk with them and explain why you
got so mad.
all in all dad you have done a great job, you are loved and you are
respected by us your daughters and yes we know our children at times
do not show you the respect you deserve but we their mothers are
working on getting that to change.
I have no idea if this all sunk in with Tim but I hope it did and
that he realises how much he is loved and respected by his daughters