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Hello
Monday, hello world, hello bloggers and hello family, how is life
treating everyone on this lovely Monday morning the 16th
January 2017.
I
am well, I have been up and dressed since 5.30am and what have I
done, well I have read around 35 blogs and now I am writing a post
for the day, I have also had breakfast but not much to do in way of
housework today, just need to put the clean washing away and unpack
the dishwasher I turned it on to wash at 6am.
Now
to some news about my mum, yesterday she wasn't good again like she
was last week when Sandy rang the ambos but this time they didn't
bother with the ambos they just put her to bed and was keeping a
close eye on her during the day.
Both
mum and dad have a doctors appointment this morning at 8.30am with
Andrew the doctor they have seen for many years and have to say he is
a pretty damn good doctor, I think Sandra will be going with them to
the doctors.
I
felt like crying yesterday when I saw mum, I also felt useless as
with my bad knees and bad back and shaking hands there is little I
can do. I sent messages to all my girls as well as Kelli and Kirsty
to let them know how their nanna was and I received this message from
Kelli that made me feel a bit better.
“I'm
sure if you were as young as Sandra is and not going through
your own pain and suffering you'd be there too. I know you would
want to be there for nan and do more, but your tremors and bad
knees won't help. And Nana knows that loves you, you are not
useless, just cause someone else can do more doesn't make you
chop liver”
I
am praying for mum every day, along with praying for Natasha who is
going through her own stuff now, stuff I cannot talk about because
she doesn't want me to, stuff I would love to be able to talk to mum
about but have not been able to do so.
Mum
hasn't been right since Nanna died and all the family are worried
about her, I know my sister will ring me later and tell me what
Andrew had to say about mum. It was suggested when she was in
hospital last week that she goes into Belmont hospital for 7 to 14
days for assessment and for a plan to be drawn up and put in place to
help her recover but mum didn't want that and I understand that but
since less then a week after returning home she was not with it again
shows it wasn't a once of and she has to do something more. We are
going on a cruise in May and mum needs her health to improve before
then.
Also
yesterday we were talking about how us siblings thing mum and dad
need to have an Enduring Guardianship with Sandra and Dave appointed
as their guardians. Want to know more about an Enduring Guardianship
go here: http://www.tag.nsw.gov.au/enduring-guardian-faqs.html
So
this is something we will have to talk to mum and dad about sometime
soon, I also want to contact the Dept of Housing to find out how they
go about getting the house altered to make it easier for mum to get
in and out of the house as she can't manage the stairs any more and
needs hand rails in the toilet and bathroom as well.
I
do wonder how Dawson is really coping with all this he is very much a
nanny's boy and he doesn't say much but I am sure he is worried about
his nanna and wouldn't like to see her the way she is at the moment.
Oh my dear friend. I can easily imagine what you are all going through. Different family member in my family but the same thing really. Very difficult on everyone, especially the patient.
ReplyDeleteMuch care and prayer for your mum.
Thank you it is upsetting to see mum how she was yesterday and I felt so useless but she is doing better tonight
DeleteGood morning, Jo-Anne. You have been up early. It is not easy on the family members when one is not feeling well. Be comforted because what Kelli said its true. Don't allow false guilt to make you feel bad. Whenever I need to talk to someone I really can trust about things I can't share with other persons, I will turn to God and pour out all from my heart. Then I feel so much lighter knowing it is safe with Him and He understands. Take care and have a blessed day.
ReplyDeleteYes I have been talking to God a lot lately about all the things happening and stressing me out. It was good when I spoke to much today and she sounded like herself
Deletehi Jo-Anne, i hope your mum feels better soon
ReplyDeleteShe is feeling more like herself today
DeleteSorry to hear the problems you have at the moment. It is hard when we have to look after our old parents. I had to care for my mum back in the 90's its not easy. I hope she improves so you can go on the cruise.
ReplyDeleteYes I also hope she improves and thankfully she was sounding more like herself today
DeleteHope the Dr.'s can find out what is wrong with your mum, good luck.
ReplyDeleteMe too
DeleteSo sorry to hear your mom isn't doing well again. You can only do what you are able to do. Sending prayers and positive thoughts and love mean a lot. She knows hhow much you love her.
ReplyDeleteThank you she is doing better but only time will tell if there are more days like Sunday
DeleteI hope that the doctor can help your mum. I know you are worried for her, but I do think that you need to take care of yourself, and you shouldn't feel bad about not going to the appointment with your parents. You are such a good soul!
ReplyDeleteThe doctor has written a few referrals for her and was really concerned about the fact that she was in a wheelchair and unable to stand
DeleteSo sorry to hear that you mum is still struggling with her health. That was a nice note from Kelli.
ReplyDeleteYes what Kelli said was nice and made me happy
DeleteWhen my own mother was struggling in the last years of her life I lived 1000 miles away with no money for travel and visits. It fell to my two other sisters to see that dad was taking good care of her and she got the help she needed. I felt so guilty (especially since they often told me I was slacking). Your daughter Kelli sent such a loving and truthful letter. My mother knew why I wasn't there, and she was still in good hands just as your mother is. Love is what is most important, and prayers my dear, pray for her peace and for your own. I hope that her doctor was able to be of some good assistance. Where will you be going on your cruise? That sounds exciting!
ReplyDeleteYes what Kelli said helped a lot, I know I am unable to offer hands on help and I know my siblings understand that, doesn't stop the guilt creeping in at times. We are so looking forward to the cruise.
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