Well
Christmas is in a weeks time, yeah I know some of you are thinking
what already, others are thinking it will be glad when its over, some
are thinking both things. I am thinking I wish it would last a bit
longer then it does, but also will be glad when the day is done with
as you all saw on yesterdays posts my dinning room table is covered
in presents so no room to sit and eat there which is ok only eat
there on the weekend when the girls are here.
The
next time will be Christmas Eve when all the girls and Michael will
be here for tea, it is a new family tradition that I will have tea
here Christmas Eve for the girls and grandchildren as they all have
their own families and things they want to do Christmas Day.
Kathy-Lee has Michael's family to see on Christmas Day not sure what
the other two are doing, they can come to my parents place if they
want to but I am not expecting it.
We
had Leo here last night and Jess said not to take him home too early
she wants a sleep in, I said now school holidays are here she should
get a few more sleep ins, she nope, Leo gets up way too early so I
said maybe during the holidays I might be able to have him an extra
night here and there so she can have a sleep in.
Although
no one took my children so I could have a sleep in, ok that is not
100% true there were the odd time when Tim would get up with the
girls and let me sleep in a bit but didn't happen very often and
there were times he would watch them while I went and had a nap in
the afternoon again not often but it did happen.
I
don't know why but this morning I have been thinking about how as
parents and friends we will at times listen to someone bitch, moan
and groan about their partner, spouse, boy/girlfriend this happens
from time to time with my girls, siblings or mum. I don't mind
listening when they need to vent but what I do that some people do
not do is accept that just because someone is venting to me doesn't
mean the person they are going on about is a bad person. I will not
think badly of the person, it will not change how I feel about them,
I do not necessary side with one over the other that is not why I am
being bitched to, I will say things like “I understand” or “ I
get that” and I usually do get it but just because I understand why
you are bitching and venting about what your other half did doesn't
mean I will decided the other person is a bad person. That is just
me.
Well
now Tim is up and in his office and Leo is still asleep on the lounge
the house is still quiet as I have not turned the telly on yet, have
no need for it on and it will only disturb Leo and I don't want that
yet. He will wake up in time.
Hi, Jo-Anne!
ReplyDeleteThank you for spending a little of your morning in the Shady and for sharing your latest musings here. I am about as ready for Christmas as I am ever going to be, so bring it on! :) I say that because my dad died Christmas Day and it's hard to battle the blues this time of year.
I admire you for remaining neutral and being a good and tolerant listener when family members need to vent their frustrations. Choosing sides can be a trap that is hard to escape.
Have a wonderful day, dear friend Jo-Anne... just sayin'! :)
Shady, that just sucks. My condolences...
DeleteThat is terrible about your dad dying of Christmas Day that really sucks.
DeleteThanks, Chris. It's very nice of you to express that. You too, Jo-Anne. Wishing both of you the happiest of holidays.
DeleteA nice time when it is early and quiet. We don't turn the Tv on until late in the afternoon. I love to be quiet all day.
ReplyDeleteYes quiet is amazing
DeleteThat's nice that you don't take sides. On the little gripes and venting I don't take that too seriously either. I suppose if someone confided something about mistreatment or abuse, I would take a side.
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