Sunday, 18 April 2021

My Week

 Up at 6.30 feeling sick in the gut, made my own breakfast but had trouble eating it.

Kathy came and showered me.

Sandy said Michelle, Alan, Landon & Skyler caught the train up or down one or the other to see Mum.

Woke at 4.30 to pee without issue and managed 2 more hours of sleep before getting up.

Tim is back at work today

Been a cool day.

I am still coughing to I sound like I am going to throw up but of course I don't.

So not allowed to see mum, who is still hanging in there.

Up at 6 again, did wake at 3.30 to pee and managed to go back to sleep without problem.

A much colder morning, I am in long pants.

At 9.45 Sandra rang to let me know Mum passed away.

April is a bitch of a month.

Slept straight through the night and woke at 6am. Tasha told me that last night Tim rang Sandra about Mum's house and he felt like he was being spoken down too and felt disrespected. This pissed off Natasha so much she wrote and I sent a text to Sandy saying how we feel.

Had the meeting at the funeral home Mum will be buried on the 21st at Belmont.

Sandra made no comment about the text when I saw her.

Had a sleep in waking at 7am after sleeping through the night. It is suppose to be warm but not as yet.

Sandra picked me up at 9 something, and took me to Mum's place to find clothes for her to be buried in.

All went good till Tasha arrived to get me and Dave had a go at her about posting Mum's death on Facebook and not removing it till his daughter was told.

Tasha has as thing about step parents & children, often saying that they are not related and mean nothing to each other. Which is so wrong in my opinion.

Tasha is super pissed with me as I didn't interfere because I love them both and didn't want to be involved.

A new day, this morning I had to see the neurologist, he said my MRI was normal and he will refer me to a movement disorder doc in Sydney. Felt like it was a pointless appointment.

Daemon told me I am one of the best aunties that made me feel good.

Today has felt like a short day again been like that all week.

Woke at 6.30 after another good night.

We all went to Mum's to meet the celebrant and talk about her service. I felt more included this time.

Sandy came over to get paperwork I printed concerning the headstone. She filled it in and I scanned it and emailed it to Sandy who sent it on to the council.

I forgot to do the shopping, will sort it out tomorrow.

Woke at 6.30 again a cold morning with some rain.

Kathy turned up is a mood so no shower this morning, she said she would be back this arvo

Kathy arrive around 2pm and gave me a shower, along with Tasha she changed my sheets.

A cold day


Janie Junebug said...

You had such a rough week. Best wishes to you and your family.


Rita said...

What a rough, sad week.
So sorry.

diane b said...

Sorry to hear about your mum. Sending my condolences.

CWMartin said...

Boy, if there's any cracks in a family, a funeral will find them out. I think you are wise to keep out of the dissensions. I remember when my Mom passed it happened but luckily I was young enough my unformed opinion didn't really matter.

Juli said...

Cold days indeed.

I know this must be so hard on you, and it is often made harder the more people that are involved.

Cling to the good times you had with her. All other things will pass. (((HUGS)))

Kathy's Klothesline said...

I am so sorry for your loss, I went back and read to catch up. I know how hard it is to keep family civil. I was appalled at my older nephews handling of my sister's funeral. He made all the arrangements before I arrived and it was so short, no fanfare. I did push my way in to speak for her. Wish I had done more, as I know she would have for me. I was in shock, I think. Nobody thought to call me and let me know she was sick. The first call came after they had weaned her from the sedation and she remained unresponsive. Still on the ventilator, I knew it was over, but I wanted to hope. I just wanted to talk to her one more time. My nephew buried her next to her estranged husband where my sister had specifically said she did not want to be. I had feeling of peace when my Dad died. I feel so unsettled with her passing. It seems that although you will miss your mum, at least you have some peace. I hope so. Thank you for all your kind comments.

Nancy Chan said...

With too many people involved in decision making, conflict is unavoidable and some will be hurt. It is best to keep peace with silence to avoid making the matter worse. Hope every will go smoothly and relationship restored.

Katie Isabella said...

Jo-Anne, my sincere condolences on the passing of your mum. I lost both of my parents; and it is a terrible lonely thing.

Jo-Anne's Ramblings said...

Janie......Yes we have had and thank you

Rita.......Yes it was

Diane B.....Thank you

Juli.....It is hard but we are close and surportive family

Chris....So bloody true

Kathy..... .Reading you comment mad me hurt for you what a bastard to treat you like that aand not do what your sister would have wanted. When Dad died I wasnumb and lost my voice.

Nancy.......So true, it is so easy to think of only yourself

Katie.....Yes it is and thank you

Debby said...

In my family, it was always the births and deaths that caused the negative drama. (Not my immediate family) Now, unfortunately, the ones that caused the drama are all gone now. Sad.

It's hard, those days after and just before their funerals. Everyone wants a say.

I wish you some peace and good days ahead.

Mariette VandenMunckhof-Vedder said...

Dearest Jo-Anne,
My sincerest condolences!
It is rough... it was for me and for both Parents, I could not be present at their funeral. Ticket prices for short notice are sky high. Forget it.
But we both have said our goodbyes many times during our 66 visits.


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