The above photo is of my nan and my mum it was taken about 20 something years ago but it is one of my favourtie photos, this is how I see nan when I look at her.
Today marked the 91st birthday of my wonderful nanna with who I have always had a special relationship and even though I know she no longer remembers our special bond I do and that’s enough………………..so because it was her birthday she had more visitors all at once instead of just me and mum and Temika. My uncle Frank & Aunt Pearla were there and my sisters Jeannie and Sandra came and there was cake, Pearla bought a large chocolate mud cake which was shared with other residents and staff……….
My other uncle Ronnie didn’t turn up but then no one rang him and about this morning’s gathering but hell he knows when his mother’s birthday is so no one should have to ring him. However, he has had a problem with nan since she started to lose her memory, I remember mum telling me that he said he was embarrassed by her this was back when she would repeat herself over and over again, now of course nan says very little. I wouldn’t be surprised if he is embarrassed by the fact that she is unable to feed herself now and can’t walk of course or do anything for herself.
But to me she is nan I do not see these things I see my nan the woman who played such a large role in my life. I woman who I think of often during any given day, I know that one day she will pass on and be with my pop but I do not like to think of that time. Yes I know her quality of life isn’t much at the moment but I love her so much and do not like to think that one day I will not be able to visit her. This photo above is one that was taken of her not long ago.
As for gifts well there is very little we can get her as she doesn’t need clothes or make up so mum bought her a nice rug to go over her legs as she is always in a wheel chair and a bunch of flowers and I did this collage for her which is now hanging in her room above her bed.