Cry Baby................or crying is ok................

Well good morning all, today in Newcastle it is supposed to be a lovely day on the hot side, I am up dressed and waiting for Summer to arrive, I wonder if it will still be morning by the time I get to post this. It is hard at times to get things done when I have Summer.

Today I want to talk about how Silence is often the loudest cry.

There’s always some truth behind ‘just kidding,’ knowledge behind ‘I don't know,’ emotion behind ‘I don't care,’ and pain behind: ‘It’s okay.’  So pay close attention to how people feel, especially those you care for most.   Sometimes what a person needs most is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I know myself when I am truly hurting I will say nothing, I will try my best not to let others see me cry, or how much they have hurt me. I can't tell you why I do this I just do, maybe I don't want to appear like a “cry baby”.

I feel that adults and often men more than women will teach children that it is not ok to cry, how often have the words don’t be a “cry baby” been said to a child who is crying over nothing. I think it would do for people to remember that crying if okay even if it is over nothing and instead of putting the child down for crying to give them a hug and say in a calm and soothing voice that it’s okay to cry but really is it that bad. Then talk it through and explain why you feel they are crying over nothing and why it isn't so bad, or if you think the child is just crying for attention than explain to the child that they don't need to cry to get your attention.

Of course it is not that easy to not get all bent out of shape and angry with a child who is crying just for attention but if possible take a deep breath and remain calm and talk to the child in quiet and calm voice.

If the child is crying because they have fallen over and hurt themselves than there is no reason to get angry the child needs to be comforted and not told to stop crying because “boys” don't cry that in my opinion is sending the wrong message to the child.

I get really annoyed when I hear someone put a child down because the child is crying, crying is the first way we learnt to communicate.

You are not a failure.....................Mummy loves you

It’s not who you are that holds you back, it who you think you’re not.

Judging yourself is not the same as being honest with yourself.  Don't sell yourself short!  You are capable of great things.  And don't ever let someone else make you feel like you're not good enough.  If they can't see how amazing you are, then they're the one who’s not good enough for you.  Their approval is not needed.

Searching this morning for something to write about I came across this and this made me think of my special girl and how she is feeling like a failure at this time in her life.

This morning I received a text that she sent to me last night in which she says she feels pathetic because she has no job, no qualifications, she doesn't even have a resume and doesn't know how to go about writing one that will make people want to hire her for a job.   

I don't know what to say or do to make her feel better about herself, is there anything I can say, in some ways I feel that this is something she has to do for herself my words sound empty and pointless.

How does one help someone feel better about themselves?

If you know tell me please, since all my words of support fall on deaf ears and leave me feeling sad and terrible for not being able to help.

I know that a person has to be responsible for their own happiness and self-worth but when a person is really beating themselves up about all the things they can't do how does a love one help.

I really don't expect any answers from anyone I am just saying how I feel, how as here mum I hate hearing and seeing her so down and feeling like a pathetic failure which I do not think she is. I can say to the cows come home that she is not these things but I can't make her believe me.

Homing Pigeons no I mean Homing Dogs.......................well in my dreams at least

Last night I had the strangest dream I am blaming it on what happened last night, now you are wondering what happened Tim had the front sliding door open I said to him that he should shut the door as Leo was playing with the dogs, well Tim says no and if the dogs get out I am not going to get them back well of course you can guess what happened  Leo made the mistake of letting the dogs inside and of course what happened they ran out the front door and that of course upset Leo he became hysterical and papa had to go out and find them, this was funny because he was so adamant that he wouldn't do that.

When I saw Tim walking in with DC in his arms I just smiled and he said “don't say a bloody word” Dino came home on his own about 15 minutes later.

Now to the dream well I dreamt that the dogs got out through the back gate when I opened it for some reason ( I don't generally open the back gate) anyway they got out and I than left to drive Leo to school and when I returned home I found Dino in the lounge room waiting for me. I then went and looked for DC but couldn't find him I looked all through the yard and when I came inside he was sitting in the hallway looking at me.

Now I then sat down and thought how did the dogs get into a locked house when they had ran out the back gate, so I go and open the gate and have a look around the dogs run past me and are gone so I shrug and walk inside only to find them in the hallway again looking at me.

Bloody dogs are not haunting my dreams, they are like homing pigeons always coming back even in my dreams……………lol

I have an opinion and I am not sorry for that.................but I am sorry if I have upset anyone

I will start this post by saying I am sorry to Jessica for making her feel like I was insulting her with my last post that was not my intention, I was just sounding off because that was how I was feeling when I wrote the post.  I know you will forgive me and I will say here and now that you are not the only daughter who expects me to do things for her, your sisters have had times when they have expected me to sort things out for them as well. It is just that they are now older and more self-sufficient now and the memory of me having to do everything for them has faded.

Today I am also feeling much better than I did yesterday, in fact I spent most of yesterday in bed and I even was back in bed for the night at 5.45pm yesterday. Jessica I am glad we didn't have Leo last night as I really don't know how I would have coped with him being that I spent 90% of the day in bed sick.

So just spoke to Jessica on the phone and looks like I will have Leo for the night and I will take him to school in the morning as she is feeling sick now herself.

Yesterday it rained all day and I was glad I was able to put the clothes in the dryer, today it is nice outside not wet or raining but not hot either. Tim took the car to work again though but he went to work at 1.30am so that is no surprise.  I told Jessica that I will pick Leo up after her dad gets home but I have no idea what time that will be though as I don't know when he will be home from work.

How do you feel when you say or do something that upsets a loved one, do you feel bad wish you could take it back or do you think you are right and why are they getting upset about something you think of as just the truth.

I am one of those people who get upset as I don't like to upset my family or those I care about.  However does that stop me writing things, well sometimes but more often than not it doesn't I write what I feel and then I say sorry later……………………….lol

I do not expect everyone to agree with me, but I also feel that my thoughts and opinions are mine and that is ok, no one has to agree with me but at the same time people shouldn't get all bent out of shape because I have an opinion.

I have times when I think they will get over it when they want something from me…………………my mum feels the same way. 

Decorations, Dogs and feeling like shit......................again...............

Good morning everyone, this morning I have been coughing so much that it like I am going to throw up and I have a bloody headache and body aches to boot, how lucky am I.

Yesterday afternoon I started to decorate my house for Christmas, and also started to do the letters from Santa to my grandchildren. I could pay for letters from Santa but I am cheap and just do them myself………………lol

Today is another wet and overcast day, here down under, and I was surprised when I got up to see that Tim rode the motorbike to work instead of taking the car.

Yesterday Jessica dropped off the dogs at my house while I was out, I knew she was going to do it but I am still annoyed I don't want them here and I would take them into the RSPCA and surrender them but I am really feeling like shit this morning and don't want to do it. I don't know why it has to be me who has to do these things I didn't want them dogs…………….ever……………….but it is me who has to sort them out and make phone calls and surrender them which is very annoying.

There are times when I feel that my girls are all adults now and yes the oldest two manage to do things for themselves but Jessica my special girl (youngest) still expects mummy to sort stuff out for her and make phone calls and such. I am sure if I could apply for jobs for her and go to interviews for her she would  make me do so in order for her to get a job………………………..lol

She is getting better but still I didn't force her to get Dino, it was her decision and she should be the one getting rid of him.

Yesterday my sister asked me if she was getting a personalised calendar for Christmas, she said I have given her one for the last 4 years so she is expecting to get one for next year this Christmas, I hadn't even thought about getting her one at this stage but I will sort it out because that is what I do.

So today’s question at what age do you think your children should be able to do things for themselves such as make phone calls and deal with mistakes like getting a pet then realising you don't want said pet so have to make arrangements to get rid of said pet……………………..Jessica is 24 by the way……………..

Sometimes I think I have mothered her too much………………………..lol

Close in age

Good morning everyone, I am up and writing at 6.55am again this morning, doubt I will get it finished though as Summer will be here any time now. 

Anyway onto today's topic, age, well closeness in age and how even though a couple of people can be close in age there can look to be an wider gap between them than there is. 

In my family we have had at different times a number of babies all born around the same time and are pretty close in age, such as in 2010 when we had Temika, Liarna and Sydney-May born all in January. Look at them now even though there are only 16 days between the oldest and the youngest of the girls when you see them sometimes it seems like there is a larger gap and at other times the gap doesn't seem that large at all. 

Then we have my nieces, Hayley and Denni also born in the same month and year but the gap between them to me looks bigger than it is. 

Which one is oldest.............can you guess..................and by how much.............

Sometimes the gap between to children is greater like a year between them but still people will think that they are the same age I remember when Sandra & David were toddlers and I would take the out I would often get asked if they were twins.

There is roughly 2 years between each of my girls born in 85, 87 & 89 because I always thought it was good to have the kids close in age so they would have each other as playmates when they were little and each other as pals as they got older.

The gap between my sisters Jeannie and Sue isn't that big either, what do you think do they look close in age.

I don't have an up to date photo of Liarna, how annoying is that.

Good Morning how do you feel about personalised stuff.......................tell me tell me do

Good morning everyone, yes I am up and dressed and ready to face the day at a decent hour 7am it is as I sit and write this, this morning. 

Now what to write about, of course last night as I laid in bed trying to go to sleep I composed a whole post in my head and this morning I don't remember it.................doesn't that just suck.

Anyway, yesterday I mentioned that I had created personalised calendars and Christmas cards, so now I am asking are you a big card giver, you know until a few years ago I thought cards to be a waste of money and couldn't see the point in giving or receiving them. Now I have 8 birthday cards and 1 Christmas card hanging on my wall above my computer desk. I love to give and receive cards and spend time picking out nice ones. I also like to do personalised ones at Christmas for not only me to send out but I do them now for my sister Sandra and my parents and this year I did them for Kathy as well. 

I have also done a personalised calendar for Kathy and my parents and myself, but the do take a lot of time adding all the birthdays and photos and such. As time consuming as they are I do enjoy doing them, if I didn't I wouldn't bother right. 

Would you like to receive a personalised card from a love one and how about a calendar do you think you would like a calendar with photos of your family and loved ones and the birthdays all ready added so you can see what ones are coming up during the month. 

I have become known in the family as the one who does personalised gifts and I think I like that.