Tuesday 30 October 2007

Heather's Problems

My niece Heather is having some problems with her partner Paul at the moment he is drinking far to much and that means he is spending their money on grog and they don't have much of it to stay with.

She wants to leave him but the only place she can go is her fathers and he she keeps telling her to go back and make it work. She wanted to go and live with her mum but Sue is boarding with my daughter Kathy-Lee and there is no room there. I know Heather feels like Sue doesn't want to help her but that isn't right she just feels like she can't and it does hurt her not to be able help Heather but that is just the way it is at the moment.

I think Heather should get an AVO as he was violent last night she had to call the cops and he was arrested for the night, I think she is worried about how he will be when he gets back.

I really wish I could help her but I have no room here for her either. She could do better then him as she shouldn't have to but up with that shit. I think she should kick him out but I will not tell her what to do. I don't think it is good for her girls who are only 3yrs and 21 mths old.


  1. Hi Jo-Anne....
    Your neice sounds like she`s in a pickle...I know how she feels as my first marriage was very similar except mine was violent...All you can do is be there to support her and one day she will realise that if this boy isn`t right for her she will leave....
    It`s the old saying "you can lead a horse to water but you can`t force him to drink it"...
    Similar here...You can tell her what she should be doing but obviously she isn`t ready to make the move....
    I put up with mine for 16 years before enough was enough....Yes a long time I know but one day something snapped in me and I never looked back....
    Hope things work out for her....Some men take a while before they grow up and take on family responsibilities....He sounds he might be one of them....

  2. Hello Jo-Anne,
    Oh dear me, no where for your niece to go. Must be some where, or as you said tell him to go as she has two children to look after. I wonder is he likely to improve, I doubt it. But you know me, always trying to find a good side to people.

    Have a nice day,

  3. Hi Jo-Anne,

    I can't understand her father not taking her in. I agree with Mandy, all you can do is to be there for her so that she always has some one that she can talk to about it.

    Take care


  4. Hi JoAnne,
    I have just read some very good advise. It is up to Heather to make up her mind what to do. She will move when she is ready. You are a wonderful lady and I know you will give her a shoulder to lean on but don't forget to look after yourself as well!!
    hugs and rainbows


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