Fingers Crossed

Good morning world, I was thinking the other day about the saying “fingers crossed” and wondering where the saying came from. Of course I know what the saying means and all but I wondered why we say it, what started people saying “fingers crossed”, so I decided to do what we do now days when we want to know something. I Goggled it.........and this is what I found.

Origin

To cross one's fingers was a hand gesture commonly used to implore God for protection, as well as to wish for good luck. The gesture is referred to by the common expression "keeping one's fingers crossed" or just "fingers crossed" and has also been historically used in order to allow believers to recognise one another during times of persecution

Modern use

Modern use of the fingers crossed gesture has little bearing on its religious origins.

A hand gesture denoting a hope for good luck

A physical gesture to indicate a wish for good luck.

A verbal wish for luck

As in: "I'll keep my fingers crossed for you" to signify that the speaker is wishing good luck for the recipient. Sometimes hyperbololised, for instance: "I have crossed all of my fingers and all of my toes" to lend emphasis or to communicate additional sincerity.

A means of nullifying the binding nature of a promise or oath

A belief that crossing one's fingers invalidates a promise being made

A means of allowing or lessening the negative connotations of a lie

Some people, mostly children, also use the gesture to excuse their telling of a white lie. This may have its roots in the belief that the power of the Christian cross might save one from being sent to hell for telling a lie.

So here is the question do you say “fingers crossed”?

If so do you say it often?

Do you believe crossing one's fingers does anything other than make your hand hurt, I don't really think it does anything but it doesn't stop me saying it and in fact I say it more than I do it. So I guess another question would be do you just say finger crossed or do you cross you fingers when you say it.

Now a bit about bad mothers

The other day I spoke about what makes a bad father it is has been brought to my attention that I there are bad mothers out there, and yes I had already planned to write about bad mothers but had no idea when I would do so, however, I am doing so today.

When it comes to bad mothers we often will think worse about them, this is because we think a mother should be loving, caring & nurturing and for the most part mothers are. There are, however, mothers who are not those things and when we hear of a bad mother in the news we are disgusted with how they treat their child. Yes we are also disgusted when we hear about bad fathers but a bad mother often upsets us more.

I think that is because a mother is suppose to be all loving and nurturing, they are suppose to have a maternal instinct that over rules everything else and need to care for their child. However some women do not have the strong maternal instinct it just isn't there.

When we think of bad fathers we think of a man who is physically abusive, women are often not only physically abusive but also emotionally abusive which is just as bad if not worse. A mother will often yell and scream and rant and rave more than a man and having a mother like that is not nice.

Women will also often neglect their child in favour of going out and having a good time, their child gets in the way of their social life because they will only think of themselves they will leave the child home alone while they go out and have fun. This isn't just being a bad mother it is being a selfish mother, our children should come first.

I feel there are some parents that do not know how to be a parent and no I do not think it comes naturally although I am sure that some people do think it does. I feel that we learn how to parent from our own parents, if we are lucky to have great parents we will often like to be like them and when we have terrible parents we swear we will not be like them and do things differently. However, sometimes as much as we try we will still end up doing the same bad things our parents did, I don't know why that is but I know that it is like that.

We will usually think of a mother as someone who will protect their child no matter what, but there are mothers out there that do not think of protecting their child they think on of how their child is sucking the life out of them, and how they want to have a life that doesn't revolve around a child. I wonder why these women have children at all, maybe they think a baby is just so cute and do not think about how much work that baby will take and how they will have to care for the baby for many years.

So does the thought of a bad mother upset you more then the thought of a bad father or do both cause you the same amount of upset.

Marriage is about love not gender

Word of the day : Marriage…….
(broadly) any of the diverse forms of interpersonal union established in various parts of the world to form a familial bond that is recognised legally, religiously, of socially, granting the participating partners mutual conjugal rights and responsibilities and including, for example, opposite-sex marriage, same-sex marriage, plural marriage, and arranged marriage:, Anthropologists say that some type of marriage has been found in every known human society since ancient times.

Now you are wondering what I am on about since you all know that I am married and have been for a bloody long time, well I am on about “same-sex marriage” yes I am going there.

My husband will tell you that God made Adam & Eve not Adam & Steve and that same-sex marriage is wrong and against the teachings in the bible, that may be the case, however, I am not against it why because I am of the belief that if is wrong and God has a problem with it than it is for those who are gay to answer to God when the time comes.

It is not for me or anyone else to cast judgement, I feel if a person is gay and wants to marry the person they are in-love with then so be it. They are not harming anyone, they are not forcing their lifestyle on anyone else, so why can't they marry.

I don't understand why there are laws preventing it, if the people are of age and consenting adults and are doing so of their own free will then why can't they marry, they are already living together and that hasn't made the world stand still and come to a screeching halt.


A gay person is no different from anyone else, being gay isn't a condition that is contagious, it is not a lifestyle choice it is just who a person is.

Scared for ones life

Word of the day Scared: To strike with sudden fear; alarm, To become frightened

Do you get scared?

Have you ever been so scared you feared for your life?

I am lucky to be able to say at 51 I have never felt that scared. I have tried to imagine what I would be like to be that scared , to fear for my life or even the life of one of my love ones.

However, I decided to a survey of my family to see if anyone has been so scared they feared for their lives and found out a members of my family have felt that scared.

I knew my sister Sue was scared she would die a number of years ago when she was terrorised by the son of a man she was seeing.

My sister Sandra also felt that scared a couple of times the first time was when she cut her wrist and the seconded time was when she was in a car accident and rolled her car 5 times..

However there were a few other family members who felt scared like that at times, my mum said she remembers when her and dad & me where in a car accident when I was only a few weeks old, she was scared not for herself but for me as I hit my head when the car started to roll.

There are others who have felt afraid as well at times, how most of the family say they fear more for their children's lives and that I so get as a parent I have at times feared for my daughters lives. I once was afraid for Natasha that I laid in bed at night praying for someone to come along and save her by getting her away from those she was mixed up with. My prayer was answered but that will be another post I think.

What makes a bad father

Word of the day.........Melaena - abnormally dark tarry feces containing blood (usually from gastrointestinal bleeding)

Last week my brother had to go A & E as he had diarrhoea for over a week and started to notice a bit of blood as well. He was at  A & E  for hours and a heap of tests done and sent home with no real answer and told to see his GP the following day. Well he did go and see the GP but I don't what was said, what I do know is that he is much better and even took Dawson fishing on Friday. 

Speaking of David makes me think of fathers some are great, some are average and some are terrible, really waste of space as fathers. 

Everyone who knows me know that I consider fathers important to children but sometimes a child may be better off without a father in their life.

 If a man is a drug addict or a violent alcoholic then the child may be better off not having them around. I know some might think I am wrong and feel that all fathers have a right to be in a childs life but I disagree.

If a child is abused by a parent than that parent shouldn't be around the child and I feel that if a person is a drug addict or a violent alcoholic they are most likely abusive to their children. Of course a person doesn't have to do drugs or drink in order to abuse their child, there are many abusive parents out there that just bash their child for no bloody reason at all. 

My brother David is one of the fantastic fathers around, he has always been a hands on father and everyone who knows him, know how much he loves his children and loves spending time with them and doing stuff with them. 

Sitting here thinking I can't think of any father I know of who is a bad father, my dad is amazing, Tim is also a bloody amazing father, my brother in-law Ed is also a great father, Kelli will tell you she thinks her dad is awesome and Jono (Blain & Daemon's) father is pretty great as well, he must be good even Leo likes to call him dad.

So what do others think, do  you think drug addicts and violent alcoholics make good fathers?

WWW...........New Year

Happy 2014 everyone, how is it where you are? Here down under in my little part of Aus it is bloodying stinking hot, so hot a body could melt if they ventured out in the heat for too long. 
Now onto the post of the day................
Questions
1.) Do you have any New Year’s traditions?
2.) Resolutions: make them and stick to them or forgo them entirely?
3.) What is one thing you want to see happen in 2014? (For you or in general)
4.) What do you have coming up in 2014?
5.) List three things you did in 2013 that you’d like to avoid in 2014.
Answers
1.) Nope use to like to watch the 9.30pm fireworks from the back yard but the council stopped them a couple of years ago so now nothing. 
2.) Generaly none can't be bother but this year I have resolved to have an afternoon nap each day. 
3.) In general less violence, for me I would like to lose weight by September
4.) A holiday to Hawaii
5.) Can't think of a single thing.

         Nanna's are short on criticism and long on love

Welcome 2014

Well the New Year has arrived and since I didn't have anything much to drink last night only 2 small scotch and cokes I am having a few scotch and cokes this afternoon and evening instead.

What plans does anyone have for 2014?

I don't do New Year Resolutions because I am just not into those things; I can't see the point to be honest.  I do plan to have an afternoon nap each day this year so that I can stay up past 7.30-8pm at night but that is the only resolution I have.  Now to see how well I stick to it.

Now some may have thought I would have said I resolve to lose weight but hell if I lose weight I if I don't well then I don't I am not going to get into a tiss over it what is the point.

I am no 51yrs old and even though I hope to be around for another 40yrs or so no one knows what tomorrow is going to bring, so I am going to live for now and not worry about what might or might not happen in the future.

As all know I had a great 2013, and can think of no reason why 2014 won’t be the same.