Thursday, 28 November 2013

Cry Baby................or crying is ok................


Well good morning all, today in Newcastle it is supposed to be a lovely day on the hot side, I am up dressed and waiting for Summer to arrive, I wonder if it will still be morning by the time I get to post this. It is hard at times to get things done when I have Summer.

Today I want to talk about how Silence is often the loudest cry.

There’s always some truth behind ‘just kidding,’ knowledge behind ‘I don't know,’ emotion behind ‘I don't care,’ and pain behind: ‘It’s okay.’  So pay close attention to how people feel, especially those you care for most.   Sometimes what a person needs most is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I know myself when I am truly hurting I will say nothing, I will try my best not to let others see me cry, or how much they have hurt me. I can't tell you why I do this I just do, maybe I don't want to appear like a “cry baby”.

I feel that adults and often men more than women will teach children that it is not ok to cry, how often have the words don’t be a “cry baby” been said to a child who is crying over nothing. I think it would do for people to remember that crying if okay even if it is over nothing and instead of putting the child down for crying to give them a hug and say in a calm and soothing voice that it’s okay to cry but really is it that bad. Then talk it through and explain why you feel they are crying over nothing and why it isn't so bad, or if you think the child is just crying for attention than explain to the child that they don't need to cry to get your attention.

Of course it is not that easy to not get all bent out of shape and angry with a child who is crying just for attention but if possible take a deep breath and remain calm and talk to the child in quiet and calm voice.
If the child is crying because they have fallen over and hurt themselves than there is no reason to get angry the child needs to be comforted and not told to stop crying because “boys” don't cry that in my opinion is sending the wrong message to the child.

I get really annoyed when I hear someone put a child down because the child is crying, crying is the first way we learnt to communicate.


24 comments:

Shelly said...

Tears can be healing, no matter the age. I agree with you.

Joanne said...

A good cry can sometimes be just the ticket
Blessings, Joanne

Bouncin Barb said...

Everybody needs to cry at some time or another. I've done it in the shower, in the car, in the bathroom. It's a release of pent up emotion.

Janie Junebug said...

You make a very good point, Jo-Anne. I get tired of people who are angry because children cry. It's okay to cry, and it's okay for you to let go and cry, too. Sometimes a good cry helps me feel better.

Love,
Janie

Beth said...

So very true!

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

So true crying cleansers the soul

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

That is can

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

I am one of those people who can cry at the drop of a hat

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

Yeah I don't like hearing people have a go at a child because the child is crying sometimes they cry because they are frustrated and don't know how to make the adult understand how they are feeling

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

Thank you

Cheryl said...

I agree...teaching children NOT to cry is a bad idea. Tears are a human response and there is nothing wrong or shameful to that. If the child starts "faking" crying for attention that is a whole other matter.

Art @ Home said...

Crying is healthy!
This post should be included in parenting books!!!

diane b said...

Sound advice!

LittleMyoo said...

I always feel better after a good cry. And for someone who can cry at TV commercials, I have no business telling a child not to cry. :)

-andi

Starry Dawn said...

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I love to read your blog posts, food for thoughts.
May I have your Email, so that we may chat a little
from time to time?
You may post it as a comment in one of my blogs.
Thank you in advance anyway!
I hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving with your dear
family and beloved ones.
God may bless you all.
Greetings from Poet Starry.

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

I think all parents can tell the difference from a real cry and fake cry, I know I can and a fake cry is treated differently

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

Thank you, and you are so right about it being healthy

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

Thanks

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

I think most people feel better after a good cry, it cleansers the soul

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

Of course you can have my email address I will pop on over and leave it there for you.

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Sandra Azar said...

i agree that crying í healthy! but i don't think there is any parent want to see their babies cry, right! cry so loud and so long can hurt your babies too!

Leek J said...

Great share advice. Thanks!

John S said...

Great advice, sometime crying is good.

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