Well good morning all, today in Newcastle it is supposed to be a lovely day on the hot side, I am up dressed and waiting for Summer to arrive, I wonder if it will still be morning by the time I get to post this. It is hard at times to get things done when I have Summer.
Today I want to talk about how Silence is often the loudest cry.
There’s always some truth behind ‘just kidding,’ knowledge behind ‘I don't know,’ emotion behind ‘I don't care,’ and pain behind: ‘It’s okay.’ So pay close attention to how people feel, especially those you care for most. Sometimes what a person needs most is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
I know myself when I am truly hurting I will say nothing, I will try my best not to let others see me cry, or how much they have hurt me. I can't tell you why I do this I just do, maybe I don't want to appear like a “cry baby”.
I feel that adults and often men more than women will teach children that it is not ok to cry, how often have the words don’t be a “cry baby” been said to a child who is crying over nothing. I think it would do for people to remember that crying if okay even if it is over nothing and instead of putting the child down for crying to give them a hug and say in a calm and soothing voice that it’s okay to cry but really is it that bad. Then talk it through and explain why you feel they are crying over nothing and why it isn't so bad, or if you think the child is just crying for attention than explain to the child that they don't need to cry to get your attention.
Of course it is not that easy to not get all bent out of shape and angry with a child who is crying just for attention but if possible take a deep breath and remain calm and talk to the child in quiet and calm voice.
If the child is crying because they have fallen over and hurt themselves than there is no reason to get angry the child needs to be comforted and not told to stop crying because “boys” don't cry that in my opinion is sending the wrong message to the child.
I get really annoyed when I hear someone put a child down because the child is crying, crying is the first way we learnt to communicate.