Sunday, 24 November 2013

I have an opinion and I am not sorry for that.................but I am sorry if I have upset anyone


I will start this post by saying I am sorry to Jessica for making her feel like I was insulting her with my last post that was not my intention, I was just sounding off because that was how I was feeling when I wrote the post.  I know you will forgive me and I will say here and now that you are not the only daughter who expects me to do things for her, your sisters have had times when they have expected me to sort things out for them as well. It is just that they are now older and more self-sufficient now and the memory of me having to do everything for them has faded.

Today I am also feeling much better than I did yesterday, in fact I spent most of yesterday in bed and I even was back in bed for the night at 5.45pm yesterday. Jessica I am glad we didn't have Leo last night as I really don't know how I would have coped with him being that I spent 90% of the day in bed sick.

So just spoke to Jessica on the phone and looks like I will have Leo for the night and I will take him to school in the morning as she is feeling sick now herself.

Yesterday it rained all day and I was glad I was able to put the clothes in the dryer, today it is nice outside not wet or raining but not hot either. Tim took the car to work again though but he went to work at 1.30am so that is no surprise.  I told Jessica that I will pick Leo up after her dad gets home but I have no idea what time that will be though as I don't know when he will be home from work.

How do you feel when you say or do something that upsets a loved one, do you feel bad wish you could take it back or do you think you are right and why are they getting upset about something you think of as just the truth.

I am one of those people who get upset as I don't like to upset my family or those I care about.  However does that stop me writing things, well sometimes but more often than not it doesn't I write what I feel and then I say sorry later……………………….lol

I do not expect everyone to agree with me, but I also feel that my thoughts and opinions are mine and that is ok, no one has to agree with me but at the same time people shouldn't get all bent out of shape because I have an opinion.


I have times when I think they will get over it when they want something from me…………………my mum feels the same way. 

19 comments:

Janie Junebug said...

I feel horrible when I upset someone I love, but I think you should have an outlet for your feelings. You should be able to write on your blog without family members getting bent out of shape. My kids don't read my blog. Maybe your kids would be happier if they didn't read yours. You are allowed to have feelings and express them.

Love,
Janie

Anonymous said...

I rant and rave in spiral notebooks. And swear. And write embarrassing stuff. Hopefully no one will see them. I think I'll go there right now!
%$#@&. Good day!

Dawn Saros-Kirk said...

Sometimes you just need to get things off your chest. I'm glad you worked it out with your daughter. :-)

Al Penwasser said...

I'm just glad my kids don't read my blog. Even though I give them fake names (e.g., Penwasser), they'll know. ;-)

diane b said...

Yes its upsetting when you hurt someone close but you do need to air your feelings too.

timothy said...

if others showed you the same consideration you do them I doubt if you'd have to "vent/rant" ..............usually when someone gets upset by something I say/observe it's because it hits too close to home and they KNOW they were wrong! stick to your guns darlin!

whiteangel said...

I usually say what I think to a persons face, and I don't regret it or feel bad about it either. If someone does the same to me, I don't feel bad about that either, I probably deserved it! I try to treat others as I would like to be treated etc. I some how have this 'thing' that I can get away with what I say :)
Pleased you are feeling a bit better...

CWMartin said...

IMHO your kids need to read your blog and, instead of being insulted, go look in the mirror and ask, am I really such a user?

Juli said...

My blog is not known to most of my "real life" people. Typically when I write, I am sensitive to those I know could be reading, but I leave it all on the pages one way or another. The blog is MINE, and honestly is nothing I wouldn't say to their faces.

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

I need to have an outlet for my feelings and sometimes I need to vent and bitch about this one or that one, I didn't know my youngest read my blog ever so now I have learnt something..........she does at times......

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

I have a notepad that I will often spill my guts in from time to time maybe one day they someone will read them like when I am dead

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

We always work things out and neither of us stay mad for very long

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

Yes having children read your blog can be as terrible as it is good

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

You are so right and in this family there is little that one can not get over

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

Well said Tim

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

My oldest is one who will say what she is thinking to a persons face and let the dice roll however they will

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

I know where you are coming from

Jo-Anne Meadows said...

It is not the first time I have written something that has upset a family member and I doubt it will be the last time either..........

Cheryl said...

I think it is hard to have a personal blog and have family members read it. I guess the trick is never write something that you aren't prepared to say to their face. But you are entitled to your opinion, if others don't agree then it's their problem.

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