Panada Ant

Well, we are on Tuesday and what freaky creature do I today, it is the Panda Ant.

Don’t be fooled by its cute appearance it’s actually a wasp whose sting packs a punch.

It is found in Chile and its bold colour is to warn off predators. Both male and female look similar they can be mistaken as different species. This is because the males are twice the size of females and then some. The males also have wings and are nocturnal unlike the females.

The female lay their eggs in the nests of ground-living insects and when they hatch, they eat the larvae of the original insect.  

 

 

This weeks country America

 

Hello, how is everyone on this Monday morning, well it is Monday morning here. This week in our series on countries we have the good old U S A.

The USA is a large country with 50 states, it is mostly situated in North America with the capital being Washington D.C. It lies between the Pacific and Atlantic Oceans and borders Canada to the north and Mexico to the south.

Its largest state is Alaska but it’s also the least populated state, it was purchased from Russia in 1867 for 7.2 million dollars. The smallest state is Rhode Island.  

The first state was Delaware which dates back to 1787, with Hawaii being the last state dating from 1959.

Before 1776 the country was known as the United Colonies. It gained independence from the United Kingdom on 4 July 1776.

The flag has 13 stripes on it representing the first 13 colonies and 50 stars for the 50 states, it has been around since 1777, when on the 14 June it was adopted by the Continental Congress as the countries official flag. Before that each colony had its own flag.

The national anthem is Star Spangled Banner since 1931, although it was recognised by the navy in 1888. It was originally called The Defence of Fort McHenry.   

 

Week 20 of 2024

 

MOTHER’S DAY

Good morning and what a nice morning, why is it nice, no damn idea but that is what I wrote. The temp at 5.30am is 14 degrees and cool.

Tasha came down a wished me a happy Mother’s Day, Kathy & Summer came over to wish me happy Mother’s Day they brought me flowers.

Tim bought pizza for lunch.

Jessica and Sam brought down my Mother’s Day gift, bath/shower scrub from Sam which was made at school and long sleeve winter nighties from Jess.

Monday again, damn the weekend went fast, it is 15 degrees as I start this at 5.30am. Kathy asked if she could ring me once a week on Saturday’s instead of 3 times a week as we generally have little news to share with each other, I said that would be fine.

Light rain at 1pm, temp of 20 degrees.

While I was in the kitchen getting lunch my glasses broke, so I am using the pair I keep in the kitchen till Tim goes down the road and buys me another pair. I only wear the ones we can buy from Hot Bargain a discount store.

Another good night only 12 degrees when I got up. My BGL was 5.6 this morning.

Had a good morning hands working so so not as good as I would like but not as bad as they can get.

Had to ring Jess to wake Sam she wasn’t answering her phone, felt a little odd Kathy not ringing but I will soon get use to the new plan.

Got to a top of 21 degrees.

Had another good night after the initial tossing and turning. The temp is 14 degrees this morning, my BGL was 5.5.

Sue came over to do a load of washing as she had so much to do, and I have a large machine. While she was, she drove me to the opp shop to give them the old Coles bags. She also drove me the bakery and down to the plaza to make an appointment to have my eyed checked.

I got in trouble off Tasha & Tim because I sent Jess a message reminding her to ask Tasha about getting Sam tomorrow arvo. The wanted to see if she would remember on her own.

Had a good night, up washed, and dressed I have my appointment in Sydney with the neurologist at 12.30pm.

It is 11 degrees at 5.30am and my BGL was 4.9.

We left around 9.15am for the drive to Sydney, stopped for lunch before the appointment as we had plenty of time.

The appointment went well she was pleased to see me walking with just the cane and the first thing she said was “you have lost weight” yes, I have.

In fact, the pants I wore to the appointment were too big and would fall down if there hadn’t been a drawstring to tighten them up.

We got home around 3.30pm, Jess had to get Sam out of school early as there was no one here to meet the transport.

I have had my meds increased by one extra tablet a day, and we have a telehealth appointment in 6 weeks to let her know how I am doing.

Had a shocking night, I kept waking every couple of hours, to either pee or just because my body thought it would be fun to interrupt my sleep.

It is 12 degrees at 5.30am, reached a top of 22 degrees today so it’s warm.

I told Tim I would walk up and meet Sam this is how I will start getting into walking more.  Which my neurologist would like me to do.

I have felt ok most of the day but by 2.30pm I started to feel drained. I also have managed to write this as my hands are still.

Had a decent sleep, woke a few times to pee but settled straight back down again so that’s all good. It is 13 degrees and windy and the wind is cold.

By midday it is still only 16 degrees, and I am so cold I went and put a long sleeve singlet on.

Tasha comment that I looked a lot more relaxed and settled today and I agree I feel more settled. I have had more control over my hands.

Started raining at around 1.30pm and kept raining for hours.

 

 

 

 

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Parkinson's and Swollen Ankles

 

Hello everyone, I had a rough night, but I have managed to get up as usual check emails and read some blogs. Now it is time for another post about Parkinson’s.

Swelling of your ankles, isn’t something I have associated with Parkinson’s, but it seems it can be. This is due the fact that those with PD often sit for long periods of time and are often unable to move their legs normally.

Without regular movement that make our calf and thigh muscles there is little circulation in the legs thus causing swelling of the ankles.  

This is usually worse in the warmer weather and can even be made worse due to some treatments.

It can also become so bad there is difficulty in wearing normal shoes, there is also the risk of skin complications or phlebitis.

Treatment should be aimed at improving blood circulation.

Also those with PD need to remember that some of their symptoms may not be cause by PD but something else, swollen ankles can be due to fluid retention, joint pain may due to arthritis and urinary symptoms can be caused by and UTI or prostate problems.

 

BPD & Impulse Control

 

Good morning, all, here we are at Thursday again and that means a little more about Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD for short. This week we are having a look at impulse control.

Everyone has impulsive moments when we do things without thinking through the consequences but those with BPD it is a right struggle.

These people often have issues with drinking and/or drug use, my sister is a recovering drug addict, and she still struggles with drinking too much.

They may also struggle with binge eating or purging, promiscuity and compulsive sex, don’t know if Sue has this problem but I suspect she might. Lastly there is compulsive shopping or gambling. I don’t think Sue gambles, but she may have a problem with compulsive shopping, she does own 25 handbags.

These impulsive actions are a way of soothing intense emotions or trying to escape a bad experience.

Such impulsive actions can explain why those with BPD often have other mental health issues and can also connect with poor financial and physical health.

Now it doesn’t take a genius to realise that such impulsive behaviour can create more problems. Or to know that trying to escape emotions doesn’t change or fix anything and will not stop the pain that can follow. It can also cause more consequences which can lead to the BPD suffer to react by lashing out at others, or engaging in even more impulsive behaviour or as is often the case with Sue they become extremely depressed.

There have been studies that suggest those with BPD may have abnormalities in the part of the brain responsible for emotional and impulsive control. It is also believed that decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex, which is common among those with BPD, contributes to certain aspects of impulsivity.

It can be quite a challenge for those with BPD to control their impulsive behaviour but with treatment and strategies they can pretty much keep it under control and lead a somewhat healthy life.

Australian's Under Fire in 1942

 

Time to take a step back in time to 1942, as I continue my series about Australia Under Fire in 1942.

Many Aussies came under fire in 1942 while at sea, cruisers, destroyers, and corvettes of the RAN played vital roles. Such as supply and rescue and relief roles as well participated in battles in the Mediterrian and the waters to the north of Australia, far too many to mention them all here.

                  THE HMAS PERTH

Allied ships delayed the Japanese landing on Java on 27 February, then on the 1 March in the battle of Sunda Strait the cruiser HMAS Perth was sunk. Costing the lives of 352 men and another 320 taken prisoner.

In November the newly commissioned corvette Armidale came under fire off Timor while trying to recuse refuges, it was sunk taking the life of 87 men.

                       A WW11 CORVETTE 

For those like me who don’t know what a corvette was or is, it’s described as easily built escort vessel with a shallow draft and three masts with full rigging which made them fast and allowed them to enter shallow coastal waters.

There was room for up to 130 men but usually had a grew of around 120. It was much in demand as a courier and scouting ship but was also suitable for small-scale naval actions.

Australia’s largest fighting force during World War 11 was the Army, Australian forces were known as the Australian Imperial Force (AIF).

In 1939 the first division of the re-formed AIF was the 6^th division with a strength of 14,500 men. The 6^th and 7^th divisions served initially in the Middle East and North Africa, then later in Papua New Guinea.

Each infantry division was divided into three infantry brigades which was then further divided into three infantry battalions. A battalion was 800 men.

Next week we will look at the bombing of Darwin.

Kinkajou

 

Hi everyone, my freaky creature book is up to South America and the first creature it shows is the Kinkajou, have you heard of it, the name is familiar to me but that’s all.

The kinkajou is a tropical rainforest mammal of the family Procyonidae related to olingos, coatis, raccoons, and the ringtail and cacomistle. It is the only member of the genus Potos and is also known as the "honey bear". Kinkajous are arboreal, they are not closely related to any other tree-dwelling mammal group.

They like sweet treats and us their long sticky tongues to raid bee hives, and termite nests. Although kinkajous are classified as carnivores (they have canine teeth), most of their diet is fruit and nectar. On rare occasions they eat eggs, hatchlings, insects, and small vertebrates. Their 5-inch-long (13 centimeters) tongue can reach inside flowers or beehives for tasty honey or nectar.

 

Their main predators in the wild include the tayra, fox, jaguarundi, jaguar, ocelot and humans. They are often hunted for their meat and fur.

Kinkajou is not currently on the endangered species list, however their status in the wild is threatened.

Their rotating ankles let them run up trees without turning their body. They have a long gripping tail which is as long as their body which allows them to hang upside down from branches.

They are sometimes confused with monkeys, but they are not monkeys.

 

 

Canada

 

Ok I have sat here flipping through my Great Book Of Knowledge which I have been using for Monday’s posts trying to decided what to write about. A lot of the book covers different animals but that is more of a Tuesday post. So, after much though I decided on countries. The first country in the book is Cananda.

Canada is a country in North America. Its ten provinces and three territories extend from the Atlantic Ocean to the Pacific Ocean and northward into the Arctic Ocean, making it the world's second-largest country by total area, with the world's longest coastline.

It is the second largest country in the world and shares borders with the United States to the south and the northwest, as well as Greenland.

Canada has a varied landscape, with majestic mountains, rolling plains, forested valleys, and beautiful blue rivers and lakes.

The name “Canada” most likely comes from the Huron-Iroguois word “Kanata” which means village or settlement.

In Canada, the term Indigenous peoples (or Aboriginal peoples) refers to First Nations, Métis and Inuit peoples. These are the original inhabitants of the land that is now Canada.

There are two official languages English and French with most of the population speaking English.

The National Flag of Canada, often simply referred to as the Canadian flag or, unofficially, as the maple leaf flag or l'Unifolié, consists of a red field with a white square at its centre in the ratio of 1∶2∶1, in which is featured a stylized, red, 11-pointed maple leaf charged in the centre.

The capital of Canada is Ottawa it is located in southeastern Ontario. In the eastern extreme of the province, Ottawa is situated on the south bank of the Ottawa River across from Gatineau, Quebec, at the confluence of the Ottawa (Outaouais), Gatineau, and Rideau rivers.

 

 

 

 

Week 19 of 2024

 

Had a better night, not great but better, it is 13 degrees at 5.30am.

It got to 16 degrees, and it’s rained all day, more or less.

I have done bugga all today other than running the vacuum over the floor.

Tim this afternoon changed the position our Foxtel box is it that is the box we us for satellite TV.

Another good night woke with the alarm to the sound of rain, looks like we may be in for another wet day. At 5am it was 14 degrees.

At around 7am Tim came out had a drink, rolled a smoke, and said he has been awake since 5am. I was expecting him to stay up, but no he went back to bed. He was up at 7.30 as he couldn’t settle.

Had to ring Jess to make sure Sam was up as she wasn’t answering the phone.

Sam also spoke to Tim, saying he apologised and loved his Papa, they hugged. I hope things are better from now on.

Had a really good night’s sleep, as I was opening the front door, I saw Tasha driving Jess to work. When Tasha got back, she wasn’t happy as Jess was supposed to ask Tim to pick her up this afternoon and didn’t. She did send a text this morning but still she was supposed to ask days ago.

I emailed off my application for NDIS.

Forgot to mention yesterday that Dawson came over for a visit, he brought over some printer paper for me.

Tasha’s cut broke her TV and she went out and bought a new one, of course Tim said what about the dryer but I get it you can live without a dryer but we need our TV for entertainment.

Another wet morning hope it doesn’t last, I have an appointment with the podiatrist at 10am, also hope Sue hasn’t forgotten she is taking me.

The temp at 5am was 13 degrees, by 9am it was 16 degrees, no rain but the ground is very wet so I will need to wear shoes when I go out.

Had to ring Jess to get her to wake Sam as someone wasn’t answering their damn phone.

The temp reached 19 degrees.

The house inspection went well, no issues. Although while Tim was talking to the lady Tasha approached and said something and Tim replied she could wait so something like that and of course Tasha didn’t like his tone and that pissed her off.

A new day is here, after a decent night, temp of 12 degrees at 5.30am.

I am having a shocking day with walking like a spastic (not meant as an insult) just how it is. As a result, I’m exhausted.

Temp got to 21 degrees.

It’s Friday, I am not as bad as yesterday but not as good as Wednesday. It was 12 degrees at 5.30am.

After taking Sam up I found my body was settling down and typing is much easier.

I stripped the bed and remade it with Tim’s help.

Sandy come over and picked up the touch lamp and bra.

Reached a top of 21 degrees.

The weekend is here, and it is wet outside, not raining at this stage but it has been overnight. The temp is 16 degrees so not cold.

I have had a good morning my hands are steady, and I got things done faster than when not steady.

Temp got to a top of 20 degrees.

Didn’t do much other than the usual, emails, blogs, vacuum, tidy kitchen, put the clean clothes away, just the usual stuff a body does during a day.

Wrote a letter and started another.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Parkinson's and Eyesight

 

Good morning, it is Friday morning as I sit and write this post about Parkinson’s and eyesight, how many of us thought PD would have anything to do with our eyesight, not me that’s for sure.

It seems it is not uncommon for those of us with PD to have difficulty in focusing on nearby objects, this is because we lose the ability to converge with the eyes in order to focus.

This leads to blurred vision, often with double vision when reading.  This book says that relief can sometimes be found with a slight prismatic correction in prescription reading glasses, whatever, that means.

Focusing movement of the eyes may be slowed which is a problem with driving, as the PD suffer may not be able to shift gaze fast enough.

Then there is the reduction in blinking which may lead to dry eyes and a tendency for crusting on the eyelids and of course soreness. If one has dry eyes artificial tear eye drops should be used for relief.

Sometimes the drugs used to treat the disease may affect focusing, thankfully this usually only happens when starting a medication and after a bit things improve. Although in some rare cases the drug may increase the fluid pressure in the eye and provoke glaucoma which isn’t good. As this can cause pain, vomiting and deterioration of vision.

More to come next week.

BPD Identity Disturbance

 

So here we at Thursday so it is time for a post about Borderline Personality Disorder. This week we are looking at identity disturbance. This isn’t just something that effects those with BPD.

 

Identity disturbance in borderline personality disorder is characterized by a painful sense of incoherence, objective inconsistencies in beliefs and behaviours, overidentification with groups or roles, and, to a lesser extent, difficulties with commitment to jobs, values, and goals.

 

Our core sense of self refers to our personality, preferences, self-image, and belief system. Ideally, this sense of self guides our morals and helps us live a meaningful life. 

 

But people with BPD lack a core sense of self. Instead, they often feel plagued by the existential question, who am I? This question can disrupt their emotions, relationships, and self-esteem.

 

As a result, people with BPD may seemingly change their identity on a whim. For example, they might dye their hair a different colour each week or spontaneously get tattoos without considering the permanence.

 

Their personalities may shift as seamlessly as the weather, and these changes can be confusing for the people around them. 

 

They can also be highly impressionable. For example, after spending time with a new friend, they might go out and buy an entire wardrobe that replicates that person. They may embrace all their hobbies and preferences- as if they were their original interests, too.

 

In a more extreme form, this identity disturbance may resemble symptoms of dissociative identity disorder (formerly known as multiple personality disorder). It can seem as if they slip in and out of entirely different personalities, embracing different personas depending on the circumstances.

 

 

 

 

Australian's Under Fire in PNG

 

Ok it is time for some more about Australia under fire in 1942 starting off this week with Port Moresby, which is in the PNG or Papua New Guinea, back during the wall it was seen as a strategic goal for the Japanese. It was an important port and the largest town in the PNG.

During WW11 there was several battles in Papua New Guinea including Milne Bay and Kokoda. Between August and September in Milne Bay the invading Japanese were driven off after a ten-day battle involving land, sea, and air forces.

Us Aussies had participated in the first defeat of seemingly invincible Japanese force. In early November after 5 exhausting months in hideous conditions on the Kokoda Trail us Aussie’s managed to drive the Japanese back from this vital route to Port Moresby.

Meanwhile during October and November outside the Southwest Pacific theatre of war Australian troops were distinguishing themselves during the battle of El Alamein in Egypt’s Western Desert. The 9^th division of the AIF fought side by side with British, Indian, New Zealand and South African forces against German and Italian troops under Field Marshal Rommel.

The fall of Singapore consigned thousands of Aussies to horrible and brutal conditions in Japanese prison camps. On the 20 and 21 February Timor fell to the Japanese resulting in many Aussies being taken prisoner.

However, one of the independent companies of the AIF the 2/2^nd remained in the jungle for over a year as a guerilla unit inflicting heavy casualties on the Japanese.

More to come next week.

                        Port Moresby in 1942

 

 

Pink Fairy Armadillo

 

Good morning, everyone, it is Tuesday here in my part of the world and so it is time for the creature of the week and this week it is the Pink Fairy Armadillo.

The pink fairy armadillo is the smallest species of armadillo, first described by Richard Harlan in 1825. This solitary, desert-adapted animal is endemic to the deserts and scrub lands of central Argentina. The pink fairy armadillo is closely related to the only other fairy armadillo, the greater fairy armadillo.

While this little fairy doesn’t have wings it’s enchanting it is only 15cm long, has a fluffy white belly and a coat od pink scales. The scales are so thin they are almost translucent, and it’s the blood vessels underneath that give it a rosy glow.

It lives in the sandy plans and grasslands of Argentina, it uses its oversized claws to dig burrows and find food such as ant larvae, worms, and other insects.

According to the Pink Fairy Armadillo resource, the total population size of the species is around 100 individuals left.

 

Facts about climate

 

Want to know a little bit about the climate, climate is of course the weather.

Mountain climates drop as the altitude increases, that’s of course the height above sea level, this affects the type of vegetation that can grow in the area.

Polar climates are extremely cold and change very little throughout the year. There is hardly any rain or snowfall and very few plants can grow. The animals have thick fur or fat to keep them warm.

Desert climates are as we all know very dry with very little rain. The days are extremely warm, and the nights can be bloody cold. Generally, the plants and animals in the desert can store water.

The mediterranean regions are warm all year round with wet winters and dry summer. Citrus fruit grows well in such areas as their thick skins prevent them drying out.

The area around the equator is known as the equatorial regions and are permanently hot and wet ideal for rainforests.  

City climates are usually warmer than less built-up areas as concrete absorbs heat for longer than vegetation does.

There is also coastal or maritime climates which are mild and wet due to the air above the land and sea constantly circulating, gaining and losing heat throughout the day and night.

Week 18 of 2024

 

Another day has arrived, I am feeling much better this morning even if it is only 12 degrees.

By midday it reached 23 degrees.

I plugged my tablet in to charge but for some reason it is charging really slow, I may need a new charger cord.

Answered one letter and started work on one to a new pen pal, those letters take longer to write.

Another good night, it may only be 12 degrees here, but I am drenched in sweat.

I feel good this morning not sick like yesterday. Last day of the school holidays, which should make Sam happy.

I went down the road with Tim wanted to get a few things from Coles but I ended up out of breathe and unable to control my body, so didn’t do as much as I wanted. This really annoyed me.

Had a pretty good night, it is 14 degrees, and I am sweating of course.

School goes back today. Sam turned up at 6.50am all dressed for school, that will not happen often.

While trying to unpack the groceries this morning I found my legs moving uncontrollably and had to do it in small bouts but got it done and after 45 minutes my legs settled.

It started raining around 1pm and hasn’t stopped.

At 5pm my legs started moving uncontrollably again.

Woke to rain, found a note from Tim telling me that if it is raining this morning, I am to get Jess to go up with Sam of course I will I do not have to be told that. It has been raining on and off since I got up.

The temp at 5am was 13 degrees by 9am it was 15 degrees. It got to a top of 17 degree by midday.

Had another episode with my legs moving uncontrollably again around 8.30am, then again around 5pm.

It has been raining on and off all day and not cold but pretty cool for me, Tim of course is cold.

I have had a couple of moments when I felt so tired moving was an effort and my body has felt stiff. So, I did some exercises then I rested after which I felt a bit better but not great.

I slept well, Tim slept in the loungeroom till around 4.45am coming to bed just before I got up. It was 13 degrees at 5am and 15 degrees at 7am.

Around 6.30am I heard what sounded like a scream and moments later Sam came running in to make sure I was ok, she also heard the scream and wanted to check on nana.

By 11.30am it was 18 degrees, I went from hot to cold and back to hot. Also had to get Jess to go up with Sam due to it raining.

Another cold morning temp of 12 degrees. Had a voice text from Jess at 1.15am asking not to wake her to take Sam up if it is raining as she isn’t well and has a migraine. So hopefully I will be able to go up with Sam this morning.

When I rang Sam, it went straight to voicemail and I didn’t want to disturb Jess, so I text Tasha, no reply so I ended up walking to Sam’s house, found the door locked so had to yell to be heard. It all worked out and Sam came down took medication and we both went to wait for the transport driver. Thankfully no rain.

Tasha came down to use the dryer and when Tim asked her if she had checked out the prices at some stores so she can get her own, she gave him a look. Why because only last week she spoke to us about that and showed photos, but he didn’t remember and got pissy and because I agreed with her, he got pissed at me.

Tim went and posted my letters off and bought me more stamps.

Had a rough night, took a bloody long time to settle down and even then, I woke 3 times to pee. It was 12 degrees at 5am.

Last night Tim took a 5 second of me shaking, and this morning I sent it to my siblings and shared it on Facebook.

Sue came over to check on me and drove me to the bakery to get a cream lamington and a small caramel tart.

We got pizza for lunch, and I barely managed one slice, I will have pizza for breakfast tomorrow.

It reached a top of 19 degrees.

 

 

Last Night

 

Not the best night or clip but this was me last night before  I managed to settle down

Parkinson's Disease and constipation as well as skin issues

 

Ok it is Friday, so it is time for another post about Parkinson’s Disease.

When you think about Parkinson’s do you connect it with constipation? I never did, although I have now learnt that it is extremely common for PD suffers to have to deal with it. This is because the normal muscular activity of the bowel is reduced.

Thankfully I do not have an issue with this, but because I know it can be a problem I make a note of each time I go just so when I am asked about the problem, I have an idea how often I go. Some may think that is a bit odd but what do I care.

It is a condition that can be made worse by anticholinergic drugs as well as reduced physical exercise and activity.

That said it rarely causes major problems.

Moving on from that to skin problems this book I am using says that it those with PD can have greasy, scaly skin, what the hell, no just no, I do not want that. Ok I don’t want any of it but still.

The condition is called seborrhoea and results in greasy hair and eyebrows with irritation and dandruff and a rather greasy shiny complexion. I do not want to go back to my teenage years.

Ok to help keep this under control one should wash their hair regularly, which I do and wash their skin daily with normal soap which I do. So maybe I will not end up with these problems because I do not want them.

Next week we will talk about eyesight.

Borderline Personality Disorder & Relationships

 

So here I am on a wet Thursday morning tyring to write a post about BPD but mostly just looking at the computer screen or the rain outside.

This week we are talking about intense interpersonal relationships. It isn’t uncommon for people to feel like they are walking on eggshells when involved with someone who has BPD as it can be like riding a roller coaster.

In fact, it doesn’t matter if the person is your partner, a friend, relative or just someone you work with, you will find the emotions intense with the highs being high and the lows super low. It will often feel anything may trigger an outburst; this is why people feel exhausted having someone with BPD in their life.

It is not unusual for relationships with a BPD suffer to start very passionately and you may even feel like soulmates. It may feel the BPD suffer wants to spend all their time with you, but this will not last and can fade fast.

In fact, the moment you do something wrong even if you have no idea what you did, you may feel attacked or punished. Which is why such relationships tend to leave you feeling drained.

People need to understand that because the BPD suffer is afraid you will leave them, they reject your efforts to put things right. In fact, they are more likely to put you through several tests in order for you to prove your loyalty. They may even shut down hoping you will apologise and beg forgiveness.

People with BPD may have a challenging time respecting your boundaries. Boundaries can feel like rejection, and rejection often feels synonymous with abandonment. They may be jealous of other people in your life and constantly put them down, hoping that you will also turn against them.

 

Unfortunately, even though the person with BPD fears abandonment, their actions ultimately can motivate people to abandon them. After all, it can feel hopeless and futile trying to comfort someone who doesn’t believe in your motives.