Being bullied is something we think of happening to children at school but the sad fact is that a lot of bullies continue the bulling into their adult life. I feel this happens partly because it works for them, by that I mean by bulling people they get what they want. In some cases the bully will mistake fear for respect, they think their victims respect them and that is why they do what the bully demands.
Yes I mean demands because most bullies demand things be done their way, they don’t ask for a task to be done they tell you in a demanding way that it has to be done.
Some kids because bullies because they think if they don’t get in first then they will be the victim of a bully, which is a sad thing. They carry the bulling into their adults lives.
After years of being a bully it is all they know so they go out into the workforce and think bossing people about is the right way to do things and some will not get that they are still a bully.
Most bullies just don’t see the damage their actions cause as many of us who have been bullied become good at hiding how hurt we feel, we will not allow the bully to see our pain. This we will often carry with us for most or all our lives. It is really hard to let our guard down and t allow others to see our pain, our scars and who we really are.