A nice little catfight

Wow how easy is it for things to get blown out of proportion the other day my darling sister Sue posted this on Facebook

“When I had a car I was full of life, happy with the freedom knowing that I could go anywhere, do anything when I need or wanted... as well as being able to help my kids with a lift or a visit gave me so much joy....And now that I don’t have my own car to drive I feel like my independence has been taken from me and I am once again feeling depressed and isolated....
How can having a car of my own to drive have that much power?”

My precious daughter Kathy-Lee responded with this comment

“You cant honestly think a car has power over your life, can you? you have 2 strong legs, unlike millions of others who have to use wheel chairs to get to the toilet and some of those need a carer just to help them wipe their butt, your 2 strong legs can get you to a bus stop. that bus can take you to numerous places where your kids may be. did you know that the sound of a mothers voice is equally as coming as getting a hug from her??

Maybe instead of being the mum who drives her kids places you could be the mum who helps her kids find the right bus route or just be an ear over the phone my mum didn’t have a car for a long time, but she still went for walks, or caught the bus, always has her phone on her so her daughters could call her with their problems. There were countless times I wanted my mum just to come to my place and watch Sydney while I closed my eyes for an hour, but just hearing her voice made me know I was ganna be ok. by not having a car you are doing the environment a favour and helping your wallet. do you really wanna pay for rego, greenslips, pink slips...etc......there is also the always increasing petrol prices and don’t’ forget about the oil that the car is ganna need.

Is there a park nearby your place? shops? do you have a backyard you could use if you wanted to to get some sun while being alone? You are very lucky to be in the situation you are in. Don’t sell yourself short cos you don’t have a car. Get a bike.....its better for your health and will make you feel better cause of all the fresh air you will be getting.”

From there a nice little cat fight started between my daughters and Sue's daughters and of course I said the wrong thing myself. I think it is all a big misunderstanding, Sue and her girls felt like Kathy was criticising her and that I was siding with Kathy by saying this “I have to agree with my precious daughter she has said a lot of good things here, I had no car for years and my daughters would help me out when I need it and yes I did catch a lot of buses sometimes I would catch the bus somewhere and have a daughter pick me up and bring me home.” which was not my intention.

I also think everyone should remember Kathy is the type of person to get on her high horse about the environment from time to time Sue not the only person who copes this I get it a lot...........

What did upset me a bit was the following comments: From Sue to

Kathy: “GET OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE I was NOT selling myself short I was simply expressing that when I had a car to drive it gave me "freedom knowing that I could go anywhere, do anything when I need or want" and a sense of independence.... At no stage did I say I had it as bad or worse then others and WHAT MAKES YOU THINK I DONT CATCH BUSES? WALK TO PLACES I NEED TO GO? or 'BE AN EAR OVER THE PHONE' FOR MY CHILDREN?...AND WHO THE HELL ARE YOU TO TELL ME WHAT SORT OF MUM I SHOULD BE!!”

The Natasha had to add this trying to defend her sister “Kathy wasn't saying anything bad about u or how u r as a mother...... I can say this when I get a call from u it's not 2 c how I am it's 4 me 2 pick u up or 4 me 2 drop u off. I can count the times u have called me asking me 2 pick u up n take u places. U have asked me n I’ve always said yes. Ohhhhhhh N Kathy is NEVER on her HIGH HORSE She is there 4 who Eva needs some1 SO LAY OFF HER...”

Which caused Kelli to come back with this “Jesus fucking Christ mum never said Kathy isn't there for people, we all know she is the most generous person besides nan in our family. She was saying she was on a high horse, Which she was about the whole Car being eco friendly And more fit, if that's what all you meadows think By agreeing with Her, sell your fucking car and see how it feels When Blain or Sydney needs to go somewhere Asap And you need to rely on other People to do something for YOUR Child because you can't.”

See what I mean about a cat fight and there was more comments going back and forth but I have only add a couple here. Also I had to go through and fix the gramma in bits as it was annoying me........lol

I ended my comments to this by adding “Well I think this has gotten out of hand.......................Sis of course your feelings are not wrong and yes we have noticed that you are happier in yourself when you have a car and no you are not me you are a stronger person then me I am weak and soft and get walked all over unlike you..................”

Upcoming Birthday

In 26 days time on the 16th November I will turn 49 and unlike some people I still look forward to my birthday and do not mind getting older and think all in all I still look good, I know some women who look older then their years but thankfully I am not one of them.

Now what would I like to do for my birthday well I would love to be taken out for a meal and I would love a birthday cake although I say every year that I would love a cake I don't get one why because honestly I think my girls do not give a lot of thought to what I want............

I know they love me and they appreciate everything I do for them but the last time anything was really done for my birthday was 9 years ago when they through me a surprise party for my 40th.   Now for a gift/wish list:

•  A Rice Cooker

• Night Magic Perfume(Avon)

• Shoes size 7-8 Thong Type

• Pretty writting paper

• Long Skirts size 18

• Would like to have soft wavy hair..........yeah not going to happen............lol

• Patty cake Maker one that is deep aka a Cupcake Maker

• Have a nice lunch with a cake to celebrate

• Pink Flowers

Just to name a few things..................................

Teeth, Eyes & Feet

Today is a beautiful day nice and sunny not to hot and not to cool, the type of day I like. This moring I had my first appointment at the denture clinic I am getting partial upper and bottom plates so I will no longer have to chew with my front teeth. The cost for the teeth is $2800 but we only have to pay $360 which is the cap between what Medicare (government) pays and the whole cost. I am lucky that I qualify for the scheme as only certain people qualify. I do not know how I am going to feel with false teeth but I guess I will get use to them, I should have them by Christmas time there is a total of 5 appointments before I get them.

I also have to get off my bum and go and have my eyes checked I was due to have them done in June and still haven't got around to doing it.................yes I know I am slack there is no real reason why I just am.

I should also have my feet checked but even though the cost of that is only $65 it is something that gets put off and off I have already had to cancel the appoint twice becuase on the day I didn't have the money and when I asked Tim for it he says he doesn't have it.

Questions From Inside the Actors Studio

I have come across these questions on another blog and since I watch the show Inside the actors studio and have always liked the questions I thought I would post them here along with my answers.

1. What is your favorite word? Family
2. What is your least favorite word? Hate
3. What turns you on creatively, spiritually or emotionally? Kindness
4. What turns you off? Hatred
5. What is your favorite curse word? Bloody
6. What sound or noise do you love? Children laughing
7. What sound or noise do you hate? Nails or a chalk board or Snoring
8. What profession other than your own would you like to attempt? Dancer
9. What profession would you not like to do? Medical Examiner
10. If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates?
        Welcome but it's not your time would you like to go back.............

I am linking this back to were I got the questions from
http://pearsonreport.blogspot.com

A new day, a better day............I hope

I am so glad that yesterday is over..............it was not a nice day well parts of it were ok but other parts made me either mad or sad.

First thing I did when I got up was put on a cassarole in the slow cooker to cook for last nights tea. I also went made a pasta bake for yesterday's lunch now I did the pasta bake and was putting it in the oven but for some unknow reason I didn't place it on a tray to place in the oven and what happened I dropped it.............bugga, so I had to pick it up and place it back in the baking dish. Anyway everyone who tried it said it was nice.

I went over to my parents place for lunch as it was dad's birthday he turned 69yrs so there was a family lunch and there was a good turn out 16 of us for lunch that includes the 3 babies. Dad seemed to like his presents he didn't get much as I didn't have much money so me and Tim gave him a very nice bottle of port, Sandra gave him a $5 scratchie, Jeannie  gave him lens cleaners and stuff to clean the tv screen and computer screen, Sue got him a lottery gift pack and I have no idea what  Dave gave him.

Now to the bad part of the day, Kathy-Lee took a couple of trailer loads of green waste to the tip and it cost a total of $100 for both trailers, now her dad towed one trailer and a couple of mates of Natasha's towed the other trailer. Kathy and her dad went through first and it cost them $65 and since Kathy had only given the boys $50 she went back to give them extra money she handed over an extra $40 and the man they were paying said that will be $35 and since Kathy had started to walk away he handed the change to one of the boys............when Kathy asked for her change the boys just laughed at her and walked away saying it's for petrol........

Kathy was dumbfounded she didn't know what to say or do she just got into the car and told her dad who got really angry but since the boys had driven off he was unable to say anything to them. When she told me I got extremely angry and rang Tasha and asked her what the hell was going on and said how dare the boys do that and  that I wanted her to get Kathy's money back. I was so mad I wanted to cry anyway Natasha did end up getting the money back but it still made me feel sad for the rest of the day.

I spent some time sending a lot of text messages to my daughters as I was not in the mood to talk to them and texting was easier, I was also upset because Natasha's mobile phone bill is now $2200 and the phone is in my name and I do not know how she is going to pay it. I will ring the company today and speak to them about making arrangements to pay the bill.

To make matters worse Natasha rang me in tears because she is upset about not having any money and doesn't know how she is going to pay her bills and get presents for Christmas, then she comes over to get a couple of pizza's out of my freezer and talks to her dad who does something I think was the wrong thing to do...........He told her that he thinks this new guy she is seeing is a user, this is not something you tell your children it doesn't make them stop seeing the person it only makes a wedge between parent and child and as my mum has often said we do not have to like the guy but if he makes her happy then we should be happy for her and as a parent we need to be there to help her pick up the pieces if the relationship fails............

So when I tell Tim that I think he was wrong to say something to her he just shrugs and says it's how I fell and she will get over it, and yes she will get over it but that's not the point I still think it was the wrong thing to say.

Now this morning is a new day and I hope today is a better day then yesterday................

Sand in his pants

After giving it a lot of thought I have at last decided what to use this for, I am going to use it to record things that my grandchilred do that I do not want to forget and the first entry in the book is this:

On Wednesday afternoon not long after me and Little Leo got home I was giving him a hug and thought is pull up(nappy) felt a bit full so I say to him "have you done a pooy" he giggles and says "no" so I have a look and I reply well there is something in there are you sure you have not pooed, he giggles again and says no. So I ask him what is it then and he giggles some more and says "it's sand". So I say why do you have sand in your nappy, how did it get there and he giggles again and says  "I put it there".

I am worried about my mum............

For the last few weeks my mum has had a problem with pain in her left arm lasting from a few hours till all day some days the pain would be pretty bad other days not so bad, she has also had some chest pains on different days so she ended up going to the doctors last week and when she did she was in for a shock as she really didn't expect our GP to react the way he did. He sent her for an ECG and blood tests and gave her a script for a pimpspray call Nitrolingual and told her to spray it under her tongue whenever she got the pain.

They did the ECG at the doctors surgery and when it was done the nurse called him to look at the results and he wasn't happy and went and had a chat with an other doctor at  practice and told her that he wanted to see her in a weeks time by which time he should have the results to the blood tests back.

So yesterday she went back to see him and get the results and to report how the Nitrolingual was working..........well the Nitrolingual has been working well and after seeing all the results the GP has refered her to a Cardiologist as he believes there is some kind of blockage and although at the moment the pain in more like Angina he wants everything to be fully checked out.

Both of mums brothers have had heart problems both of them having heart bypass operations .

Even though I know mum will be fine I am still worried about her she is my mummy and I do not like to see her unwell and I really need her around for many more years to come..........