Wednesday, 24 April 2019

Dealing with death



Good morning all, didn't do a post yesterday as before I got around to it my brother had arrived to pick me up and take me over to mum's to meet the funeral people at midday.

So this morning I am writing a post first up before reading other blogs. I am just going to type and let my feelings out.

I spent most of Monday going through photos of dad and adding them to a flash drive for the funeral, my sister in-law is going to sort them out and find music to go with them, ready for the funeral. My sister in-law is also going to arrange the service booklets for the funeral.

I know dad is dead but I don't feel like he is, it doesn't feel real some how. Last night as I was saying goodbye to mum I started to say give my love to dad because for years that has been the last thing I have said to mum.

I have decided to read the letter I wrote to dad at the funeral and then have it buried with him.

Mum & Dawson decided to clean off the little table dad used to store stuff into a large plastic container, this upset my sister Sandy but it was something mum wanted to. I have no problem with her doing that if that is what she needs to do.

Mum was a little upset that my sisters tossed out dad's pillow and the bedding off her bed, they did that because of the smell of decomp, they felt it was the easiest and best thing to do.

My sister Sue replaced the comforter with a really nice green one.




11 comments:

Janie Junebug said...

My parents died many years ago and it's still hard to believe they're gone. I can hear their voices still. My condolences to you and your family. You are a loving and faithful daughter, wife, mother, and grandmother.

Love,
Janie

Karen @BakingInATornado.com said...

I lost my dad a few years ago and I still sometimes have to remind myself that he's gone, I always seem to expect that he is here. I'm so very sorry for your loss, to you and to your entire family.

Chatty Crone said...

I am so so sorry about the lost of your father. I lost mine too and it is hard to go through - so my thoughts and prayers are with you.

I don't know if you noticed, but I've been gone for a couple of weeks - my computer crashed and it has taken me forever to get myself going again and I am totally back yet. I may not go back and answer all your letters, but I am here.

Again I am sorry about the loss of your father.

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Jo-Anne - I'm sorry not being around much I hadn't realised your father had died - my thoughts and blessed wishes at this time ... all the best and take care - Hilary

Rita said...

Sorry for your loss. Emotions are high and people can take offense when there's no need to. Things will settle down, but you will probably think you hear him or see him for some time. It's all very hard. I think reading the letter and burying him with it is such a nice thing to do.

Rick Watson said...

I’m sorry to learn about your dad. Losing a parents is hard. Mine had been sick for a while and I thought I was prepared for the end, but I had no idea.
Our thoughts are with you.

CWMartin said...

I bet your mom has found it to be real by now. Nothing says "you're gone" like a silent night, a quiet house. I spent weeks playing the radio 24/7 after my dad died...

Jo-Anne's Ramblings said...

Janie.....Thank you, we are taking it one day at a time

Karen.....Yes it is hard, thank you for the kind words

Sandie.....It sure is hard, crashed computers suck

Hilary......Thank you

Rita........Thanks I told mum that Sandy doesn't mean to sound so bossy

Rick........Yes dad was sick for about 8 months and we knew his time was near but it still hurts

Chris.......Mum is good at living in denial

Nancy Chan said...

It is so hard to say goodbye to our loved ones but its comforting to know that their suffering had ended. Passing away is just the physical but the memories will always be there. It will take some time for the reality to set in. Thank God for family members helping out in various ways.

Mad Jack said...

I'm very sorry for your loss.

When my mother passed away, I couldn't recognize people. I had someone stand next to be during the memorial service and tell me who I was greeting. Given time, things get a little better.

Jo-Anne's Ramblings said...

Nancy.......Yes it is hard but it is good that dad isn't suffering any more.

Jack........Yes it is hard for mum, Monday will be harder still

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