I am sure pretty much every parent has experience sleep deprivation at some point here are 10 signs you may be experiencing sleep deprivation:
- Inability to handle stress
- Poor Memory
- Inability to Concentrate
- Increased Appetite
- Vision Problems
- Poor Decision Making
- Diminished Motor Skills
- Relationship Troubles
- Medical Problems
- Mood Swings
Now if this is a problem you suffer with there is help available so don't suffer in silence, ok let's be honest you wouldn't be suffering in silence you would be letting everyone you come into contact with know you are sleep deprived because you will be in such a terrible mood.
Now if you are a parent of a child that doesn't sleep and you have a partner/spouse than you need that person to be supportive of you while you attempt to get your difficult child into a better sleeping routine.
If they prefer to lock themselves away in a different room so they can't hear the child that is crying and preforming that is only going to make you mad and pissed off with them because you will feel like you are doing it alone. If you are the one who locks themselves away in a different room than shame on you, you need to be helping.
Dealing with a child that doesn't want to sleep is stressful, the easy thing is to pick them up and rock them and try to get them into a deep sleep before putting them back to bed, but that often will backfire on you and because of that it is better to not pick them up but to give them their dummy if they have one and stand and pat their bottom and maybe talk to them quietly in soft voice till the start to settle again, then leave the room and if they start to cry the moment you start to walk away, keep walking shut the door and give them 5 minutes before going back in if needed.
This is not easy I know but it can and does work you may have to go into them many times over and hour or two but if you do this all the time they will eventually start to settle quickly. Sometimes a baby or child will know that if they cry and perform enough they will get their own way. Breaking the patten isn't easy.
It is when you are trying to break a patten or set up a new routine that you need the understanding and support of your partner, it doesn't matter whether the partner is the parent of the child they are your partner and as such they should be supporting you.
My oldest daughter Kathy-Lee was a terrible one when it came to settling her this was from birth and as a toddler we had many nights when she would not want to sleep, even though she was tired. I however, was luck in that most nights I had Tim here being supportive and we would take turns taking her back to bed and she would come out a couple of dozen times a night but each time one of us would take her back to bed. We didn't stay and have long talks to her, we just put her back into bed and leave and 10 minutes later she would be back out again.
As a baby Kathy wouldn't settle either and at first I made the mistake of always picking her up and rocking her and settling her but soon realised it wasn't working because as soon as I put her in the cot she would cry again so I stopped that and moved onto the standing next to the cot and patting her bottom till she settled again than walking out of the room and yes most of the time she would cry as soon as I started to walk away or as soon as I got out of the room but I learnt not to go back into her straight away I waited a few minutes before going back.
I am not going to tell anyone that it was easy it wasn't it was in fact bloody hard and bloody stressful and I had many times when I would sit in the hall way crying and saying I couldn't do it anymore. It was too hard and she hated me and I was a failure as a mother, there was many times when I would get so angry with her I would shake with rage, (me not her) I never shook her but it wasn't always easy I did have to put her in her cot and walk outside for a few minutes to calm myself before going back in and dealing with her again.
I will not tell you either that Tim was the biggest help, because he wasn't always a help there was times when he would be like, “ I have been at work all day and need a rest”. I would think what do you think I have been doing all day sitting around having tea party, yes when he was young I am sure Tim didn't see being a stay at home mother as a real job but some kind of easy life.
I always think it is amusing when I hear about men who don't want to watch their child all day because they have things to do and it will take time away from what they want to do. Women have things to do also but we manage to do most of the things while watching the child or children at the same time. Why do they think it is ok for a woman to have to deal with children while trying to work from home, or study from home as well as doing all the housework and cooking meals and than in the evening bathing children and getting them ready for bed.
Than they are expected to deal with a child or children that do not want to settle and go to sleep but fight and cry.