The other day I spoke about what makes a bad father it is has been brought to my attention that I there are bad mothers out there, and yes I had already planned to write about bad mothers but had no idea when I would do so, however, I am doing so today.
When it comes to bad mothers we often will think worse about them, this is because we think a mother should be loving, caring & nurturing and for the most part mothers are. There are, however, mothers who are not those things and when we hear of a bad mother in the news we are disgusted with how they treat their child. Yes we are also disgusted when we hear about bad fathers but a bad mother often upsets us more.
I think that is because a mother is suppose to be all loving and nurturing, they are suppose to have a maternal instinct that over rules everything else and need to care for their child. However some women do not have the strong maternal instinct it just isn't there.
When we think of bad fathers we think of a man who is physically abusive, women are often not only physically abusive but also emotionally abusive which is just as bad if not worse. A mother will often yell and scream and rant and rave more than a man and having a mother like that is not nice.
Women will also often neglect their child in favour of going out and having a good time, their child gets in the way of their social life because they will only think of themselves they will leave the child home alone while they go out and have fun. This isn't just being a bad mother it is being a selfish mother, our children should come first.
I feel there are some parents that do not know how to be a parent and no I do not think it comes naturally although I am sure that some people do think it does. I feel that we learn how to parent from our own parents, if we are lucky to have great parents we will often like to be like them and when we have terrible parents we swear we will not be like them and do things differently. However, sometimes as much as we try we will still end up doing the same bad things our parents did, I don't know why that is but I know that it is like that.
We will usually think of a mother as someone who will protect their child no matter what, but there are mothers out there that do not think of protecting their child they think on of how their child is sucking the life out of them, and how they want to have a life that doesn't revolve around a child. I wonder why these women have children at all, maybe they think a baby is just so cute and do not think about how much work that baby will take and how they will have to care for the baby for many years.
So does the thought of a bad mother upset you more then the thought of a bad father or do both cause you the same amount of upset.