Do you hold onto anger?
Do you hold grudges?
Do you go years or decades without talking to people?
I don’t do any of the above, I do get anger and pissed off with people at times but I am one of those strange people who can flare up yell and rant and rave and when I have said my piece I am over it, yes I am over it that fast………………..
Maybe if when you are holding onto your anger you should think to yourself if the person you are mad with, not talking to was die tomorrow how would you feel. If you really didn’t get the chance to see them or hear their voice ever again how would you really feel, and I mean really feel it is easy to say I would care, it wouldn’t bother me but for most people that isn’t the case. In fact most people really think there will always be a chance to make amends, to patch things up often someone thinks if they say “sorry” that it makes them less of a person……………..
How often have you said “I’m not going to say sorry” or “I’m not going to make the first move” they started it they have to come to me. I know it is easy to feel that way and yes I do think there are some things that feel unforgivable but often if the person was to say sorry I didn’t mean to hurt you, you may find it in yourself to forgive them anyway……………….
Many years ago my father in-law told my husband to “F” off then said “you’re not my son” and you know we haven’t spoken to him since, if he was to say sorry to Tim then maybe we could try and make amends but he refuse to acknowledge that he said those words to Tim and has called Tim an ungrateful sod………………….
Tomorrow is my sister Sue’s birthday and I will do a post about her tomorrow but I have been trying to contact her to find out when she would like to catch up and for me to be able to give her, her birthday present but she isn’t returning my text messages or answering her phone when I ring. So is she holding onto her anger at me, and if you don’t know what I did to piss her off I wrote this post http://jo-annemotherandnanna.blogspot.com.au/2012/10/respect-your-parents-if-they-are-great.html