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Do
you ever feel like crying?
Do
you ever wonder why things have to be so hard, so complicated and so
bloody frustrating?
Do
you ever wonder why someone cannot see things from someone else's
point of view?
How
hard is it to have respect for someone else, and their wishes and
feelings?
Lately
as in the last week or so I have felt like crying a lot and I am
often feeling frustrated and feel like screaming. Natasha doesn't
see things from anyone else's point of view, she things she does but
when I was talking to her this morning and when her dad was talking
to her yesterday afternoon it didn't sound like she could get what he
was saying or he get what she was saying.
She
would rather fork out money to stay in a motel other than coming
home, her dad has asked her to come home but she won't she says she
doesn't want to come back only to end up fighting with her dad yet
again and leaving in a mood saying she won't ever come back. I don't
get that yes her and Tim fight they are so much alike but I feel like
she is being stubborn and because she can't have everything here her
way she would rather not be here.
She
really doesn't get that this is our home and we have the right to
have stuff in it, she keeps going on about how much stuff we have in
the house and how we need to get rid of stuff because she doesn't do
clutter and mess. When she starts going on about the house I get
upset and doesn't get why.
I
know she would be happier in her own house but at the same time she
chose to give up her house and move back in here, I do not think she
thought it through before she moved home, I told her it is not like
she didn't know what this house was like before she moved home. When
she moved home she was talking about being here for years she didn't
even make it through one year before it all fell apart.
In
other news Tim still doesn't have his bike back so I am using
Jessica's car yet again and tonight I have said that Leo can stay
here so I don't have to get up early to go and pick him up from his
mum's to take him to school. This afternoon I have to take him
bowling after school then home here for the night Tim should be home
around 4.30pm so I don't mind having him here for the night.
Yesterday
was my dad's birthday he turned 74 and we all went over for lunch
well by all I mean me and Tim, Dave and his kids, Sandra and her
girls, neither Jeannie or Sue turned up but it was also Sue's
granddaughter Isabel's birthday so she was at her daughters place for
her granddaughter's birthday.
Friday
was my baby sister's birthday she was 39, like how the hell did she
get that old seems like only yesterday she was a baby that I took
into my bedroom with me while I listened to very loud music as well
as taking her to shops and such with me and now she is 39.
We
have two more birthdays this month Sue then Dave and then we are done
for the month.
Sorry. It doesn't sound like she will change so she is better off on her own. Look at all the stress she causes, too. It will work out. Let her go on her way.
ReplyDeleteNo she isn't going to change any time soon, I am going to take a step or two back and just see what happens
DeleteI am sorry to hear about the stress you have been going through. Sometimes, it is better to let her go her own way if she insisted on it. If she wants to come back, she will have to be humble about it and not insists on her terms.
ReplyDeleteYes I am going to step back and let her figure things out for herself we have tried to talk to her but she sees things her way and can't or won't see things our way so time to step back and stop getting involved
DeleteI wish I could say I can't relate to your situation but I can. Your Natasha sounds a lot like my Maggie. Only I'm the neat one and she's horribly messy and so is her dad. But she doesn't like to be told anything because she only sees it from her perspective. Sigh. They make life way harder than it needs to be.
ReplyDeleteYes they do make things harder then they need be so the time has come for me to take a step back and let things work themselves out
DeleteAs much as I don't wanna step into it again, I'd just add that SOMEONE needs a huge reality check.
ReplyDeleteAgreed
DeleteI can relate so much. My daughter can get set in her ways. I love her to death, but she is a lot like me. She needs to experience things on her own. Advising her can sometimes set up shields. Hang in there!
ReplyDeleteIt is nice to hear we are not alone with these problems, we may know it but it is still nice to hear, thank you
DeleteI took a few days away from the Internet and I am sorry to see that you are being stressed out by the Natasha situation. I think maybe her being out of the house for a bit and all parties having some space away from each other might be helpful.
ReplyDeleteThe fact is that it is your house and your rules. She needs to accept that.