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Wait till your father gets
home............yes or no
Today let's talk a little about
punishment of children, on many tv shows when I was growing up you
would usually hear the mother say the words “ wait till your
father gets home”...............
These are words I never heard my mum
say, if we were naughty she dealt with it, if we had to wait till dad
got home we could have been waiting a few days, so mum thought it was
better to deal with the issue when it happened.
Maybe this is why when my girls were
little if they misbehaved I dealt with it, although Kathy has said
she remembers me saying it but she is wrong. What I did say often
when the girls were not paying attention to me was “either I can
deal with this now or you can wait till dad gets home and let him
deal with it”.
Of course with those options they
would chose to let me deal with the issue because I didn't go off my
head like Tim would. I also would tell Tim about any issues when he
got home and I would tell him that I had deal with it, sometimes he
thought I was too soft and want to add more punishment but I would
say that is undermining me and that would also piss me off when he
would try and do it.
If the issue was a serious one I
might say to the girls that I would have discuss with dad their
punishment, this they didn't like because Tim would go overboard in
my opinion. Many times he would want to throw things in the bin
because they wouldn't clean their room, this I thought was overboard
because if we tossed it we would only have to replace the items at a
later date. I would confiscate things and they would have to earn
them back.
On many occasions I would tell Tim
his punishment didn't match the crime, if fact I often said he was
acting like they committed armed robbery when in fact they just
didn't pay for a lollipop but things are wrong both things are theft
but you don't toss someone in goal for pinching a lollipop. It any of
that makes sense, it often didn't to Tim.
Did I smack my girls, yes I did a
firm smack on the bum wasn't and isn't abuse, also Kathy had a habit
of kicking the bedroom wall when sent to her room and I would go in
and smack her legs, once I didn't hoping she would calm down and stop
and she ended up kicking a hole in the wall, which made things worse
when Tim found out.
All right, now I can reply to this. There was no difference in the punishment between Mom and Dad in my childhood- and yet there was a vast one, and I never really understood it. See, the rules, and what would trigger punishment, were the same for both. But, pushing Mom to the limit and getting the paddle was never a problem... but Dad? All he had to do is unbuckle his belt and you were done.
ReplyDeleteMy dad was a short tempered man he isn't as short tempered now days, but after he would go off he would come and talk to us about what we did wrong and make sure we understood that he stilled loved us and just because we got into trouble that didn't change.
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ReplyDeleteHappy New Year! Sandie♥♥♥
Right back at ya
DeleteMy mom never said, Wait till your father gets home. She always punished us herself, whether we deserved it or not. If something bad happened when my dad was at home, it was even worse.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
When mum was really mad with us she was known to throw her slipper at us, she never hit us with it her aim wasn't that good.
DeleteI used to throw the TV Guide at my son when he was an annoying teenager.
DeleteNeither of my parents had to punish me much, because I have always hated having people mad at me or disappointed in me. My dad liked to say how he could just look at me and I would stop whatever I was doing wrong.
ReplyDeleteI got a few good smacks as a child but usually was just sent to me room to think about what I did wrong, once there I just read
DeleteI got a spanking occasionally. I hated it but there was nothing I could do.
ReplyDeleteI also had a few good smacks but over all not that much as I was over all a pretty well behaved child
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