Sunday, 31 December 2017

Wait till your father gets home............yes or no

Wait till your father gets home............yes or no

Today let's talk a little about punishment of children, on many tv shows when I was growing up you would usually hear the mother say the words “ wait till your father gets home”...............

These are words I never heard my mum say, if we were naughty she dealt with it, if we had to wait till dad got home we could have been waiting a few days, so mum thought it was better to deal with the issue when it happened.

Maybe this is why when my girls were little if they misbehaved I dealt with it, although Kathy has said she remembers me saying it but she is wrong. What I did say often when the girls were not paying attention to me was “either I can deal with this now or you can wait till dad gets home and let him deal with it”.

Of course with those options they would chose to let me deal with the issue because I didn't go off my head like Tim would. I also would tell Tim about any issues when he got home and I would tell him that I had deal with it, sometimes he thought I was too soft and want to add more punishment but I would say that is undermining me and that would also piss me off when he would try and do it.

If the issue was a serious one I might say to the girls that I would have discuss with dad their punishment, this they didn't like because Tim would go overboard in my opinion. Many times he would want to throw things in the bin because they wouldn't clean their room, this I thought was overboard because if we tossed it we would only have to replace the items at a later date. I would confiscate things and they would have to earn them back.

On many occasions I would tell Tim his punishment didn't match the crime, if fact I often said he was acting like they committed armed robbery when in fact they just didn't pay for a lollipop but things are wrong both things are theft but you don't toss someone in goal for pinching a lollipop. It any of that makes sense, it often didn't to Tim.

Did I smack my girls, yes I did a firm smack on the bum wasn't and isn't abuse, also Kathy had a habit of kicking the bedroom wall when sent to her room and I would go in and smack her legs, once I didn't hoping she would calm down and stop and she ended up kicking a hole in the wall, which made things worse when Tim found out.



11 comments:

CWMartin said...

All right, now I can reply to this. There was no difference in the punishment between Mom and Dad in my childhood- and yet there was a vast one, and I never really understood it. See, the rules, and what would trigger punishment, were the same for both. But, pushing Mom to the limit and getting the paddle was never a problem... but Dad? All he had to do is unbuckle his belt and you were done.

Chatty Crone said...



Happy New Year! Sandie♥♥♥

Janie Junebug said...

My mom never said, Wait till your father gets home. She always punished us herself, whether we deserved it or not. If something bad happened when my dad was at home, it was even worse.

Love,
Janie

Jo-Anne's Ramblings said...

My dad was a short tempered man he isn't as short tempered now days, but after he would go off he would come and talk to us about what we did wrong and make sure we understood that he stilled loved us and just because we got into trouble that didn't change.

Jo-Anne's Ramblings said...

Right back at ya

Jo-Anne's Ramblings said...

When mum was really mad with us she was known to throw her slipper at us, she never hit us with it her aim wasn't that good.

Becca said...

Neither of my parents had to punish me much, because I have always hated having people mad at me or disappointed in me. My dad liked to say how he could just look at me and I would stop whatever I was doing wrong.

Katie Isabella said...

I got a spanking occasionally. I hated it but there was nothing I could do.

Janie Junebug said...

I used to throw the TV Guide at my son when he was an annoying teenager.

Jo-Anne's Ramblings said...

I got a few good smacks as a child but usually was just sent to me room to think about what I did wrong, once there I just read

Jo-Anne's Ramblings said...

I also had a few good smacks but over all not that much as I was over all a pretty well behaved child

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