Borderline Personality Disorder & Relationships

 

So here I am on a wet Thursday morning tyring to write a post about BPD but mostly just looking at the computer screen or the rain outside.

This week we are talking about intense interpersonal relationships. It isn’t uncommon for people to feel like they are walking on eggshells when involved with someone who has BPD as it can be like riding a roller coaster.

In fact, it doesn’t matter if the person is your partner, a friend, relative or just someone you work with, you will find the emotions intense with the highs being high and the lows super low. It will often feel anything may trigger an outburst; this is why people feel exhausted having someone with BPD in their life.

It is not unusual for relationships with a BPD suffer to start very passionately and you may even feel like soulmates. It may feel the BPD suffer wants to spend all their time with you, but this will not last and can fade fast.

In fact, the moment you do something wrong even if you have no idea what you did, you may feel attacked or punished. Which is why such relationships tend to leave you feeling drained.

People need to understand that because the BPD suffer is afraid you will leave them, they reject your efforts to put things right. In fact, they are more likely to put you through several tests in order for you to prove your loyalty. They may even shut down hoping you will apologise and beg forgiveness.

People with BPD may have a challenging time respecting your boundaries. Boundaries can feel like rejection, and rejection often feels synonymous with abandonment. They may be jealous of other people in your life and constantly put them down, hoping that you will also turn against them.

 

Unfortunately, even though the person with BPD fears abandonment, their actions ultimately can motivate people to abandon them. After all, it can feel hopeless and futile trying to comfort someone who doesn’t believe in your motives.

 

Australian's Under Fire Intro Pt2

 

Well, hello everyone, it is slightly cold and wet day here in Newie.

Here is a little more the introduction in the book Australians Under Fire 1942.

During the 1930s and early 1940s Australia watch Japan invade Manchuria and China, march through Indo-China (now Vietnam), Cambodia and Laos. Then, came Malaya followed by the attack on Pearl Harbour.

In January 1942 Japan seized Rabual on the island of New Britian to Australia’s north this saw British, Dutch and American colonies in the region fall quick smart.

Singapore fell on the 15 February; Singapore had been considered a British bastion for the defence of region.

These actions made Australia aware of how vulnerable this island continent was. This was brought home with the bombing of Darwin on the 19 February, more about that in a later post.

Even the arrival of General Douglas MacArthur (who my uncle was named after) on 17 March was tinged with a sense of defeat, as he had been forced to flee from the Philippines.

The United States High Command chose Australia as a base from where the war against Japan could be planned.

For a while there seemed no stopping Japan but then came the battled of the Coral Sea in May 1942 which was a win for the Allies. It was this battle that prevented Japan taking Port Morseby and invading Northern Australia.

Brown Throated Slot

 

What as morning, I was debating with myself if I would do a post due to how I have been feeling but here I am doing one. It is Tuesday so it is creature day and this week wed are looking at the Brown-Throated Sloth, there is a bloody lot that is unusual about this mammal.

Such as its thick brown fur regularly looks green-blue because of the algae growing on it. The colour helps it stay well, hidden in its rainforest home. Next instead of toes it has three long claws on both front and back feet, which help it hang upside down from branches. It can also swivel its head almost 90 degrees and its mouth are shaped in a permanent smile.

It is the size of a cat, weighs around 4kg and rarely walks, it stays in trees except when it needs to poo, which it does once a week.

They eat leaves, twigs, and fruit, because they move so little and use hardly any energy a single meal can take up to a month to pass through its body.

It is a species of three-toed sloth found in the Neotropical realm of Central and South America. It is the most common of the four species of three-toed sloth and is found in the forests of South and Central America.

Although they can walk along the ground, and even swim, they spend most of their lives in the high branches of trees, descending once every eight days or so to defecate in the soil. It has no preference for sleeping say or night.

 

Earth Facts/Weather

 

It is Monday and the last day of the school holidays.

It is also time for this week’s facts, this week we are looking at weather.

The word weather is used to describe the conditions in the atmosphere close to the Earth’s surface.

The Sun plays a crucial part in determining the weather. Its rays have the strongest effect where they hit the ground around the planet’s surface or the equator. So, the further away from the equator the colder it is.

Regions along the equator receive the same strength of sunlight all year round, these places only have two distinguishable seasons, wet and dry.

Heat from the sun causes water from the seas to evaporate, as the water vapour rises and cools it condenses, forming tiny water droplets which group together to form clouds.

Weather conditions change throughout the year because the Earth is tilted on its axis. As the Earth orbits the Sun, the Suns rays fall on different areas causing the seasons.

Week 17 of 2024

 

DAD PASSED 5 YEARS AGO

A decent enough night, it is another wet morning with the temp being 16 degrees. I had to turn the heater on for a bit.

By midday it was 20 degrees.

The spat between Jess, Sam & Tim has gotten worse that is till Tasha got involved giving Jess & Sam a lecture then Tim about respect, acceptance and not acting like children. She also had a go at Tim about his refusal to see someone about his depression and his refusal to try medication for it.

It has felt like a long sad day.

A new day, the start of the last week of school holidays. A cold start to the day with a temp of 14 degrees. I am feeling drained this morning, shaking and sweating and feeling sad.

Summer is here today.

Sandy came over to us her new car, it is a white 2013 Holden Captiva, runs on diesel.

Tim & Summer went to Kmart so Tim could buy a couple of heaters. He also stopped and bought Hungry Jacks for lunch I just had a small chips.

This afternoon Tim told me he will endeavour to call Sam she or her, but it doesn’t change his believes or opinions that is fine now one expected it to.

I have no idea why he changed his mind because yesterday he was adamant he would not do so.

I could tell when he told Jess that she was happy.

I had a better night last night it is only 13 degrees this morning. Also, this morning I found a bunch of my medication laying lose on my desk, Tim obviously spilt them which is annoying but what can you do.

Summer is here today, and she has been a big help dividing fruit, unpacking groceries as well as other stuff.

Tim had a job interview, he said it went well. However, they want to wait till after he has seen his hand specialist again about removing a plate in his wrist, before offering him a job.

The temperature got to 25 degrees around midday.

Had a rough start to last night, I was tossing and turning and moving so much I felt seasick. Tim said it took my 5 hours to settle.

Once I settled, I slept well.

This morning’s temp at 5am was 13 degrees.

Tim has gone to a doctor’s appointment then he is going to cash in some bottles.

By midday it was 26 degrees.

ANZAC DAY

Had a much better night settled quickly and slept pretty much through the night.

The temp at 5am was 13 degrees but doesn’t feel that cold. It got to a top of 23 degrees by 11am.

I washed the kitchen and bathroom floors using the steam mop then Tim went over it using a normal mop and plain water. Tim also cleaned the exhaust fan in the bathroom.

Had a good night’s sleep, woke with the alarm, discovered Tim had done a load of washing and tossed it in the dryer, it is folded and waiting for me to put it away.

It is 12 degrees at 5am.

Tried on the new grey pants I bought. They are a size too big, but I can’t return them as they were on the clearance rank. I also will need them hemmed but they felt good on, I was going to wear them to the doctors but changed my mind as a piece of thread got caught in my toes.

By midday the temp was 21 degrees.

Had a doctor’s appointment all went well just needed forms filled in, also had a flu shot.

I feel terrible this afternoon like I have the flu, damn flu shot.

Had another good night, did take me a while to settle fully but once I did, I slept through the night. It is 11 degrees at 5am. By midday it was 21degrees.

I haven’t felt well all day just like I have the damn flu, but I don’t have to do anything but rest.

I did manage to answer 4 letters which is something and blog of course.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Borderline Personality Disorder/Fear of Abandonment

 

Hi, everyone this week we are looking at fear of abandonment and borderline personality disorder.

We all must deal with the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship as loss is a natural part of life. However, people with BPD live in fear of such loses.

People with BPD tend to think the following thoughts, you’re going to leave me, you don’t really love me, or you aren’t here for me.

Those with BPD can have tremendous fears of rejection and being abandon to the point they may sabotage themselves and relationships. The fear they feel can be real or just perceived but it is highly intrusive.

So it isn’t uncommon for the suffer to assume people will leave them, this can be caused by past evidenced of people leaving them or could just be a more general belief that they can‘t trust others and will end up being hurt.

A simple tiff with a loved one may trigger an abandonment response.

Those with BPD are essentially waiting for their loved one to leaved them which may cause them to withdraw, lash out, threaten or even in some case harm others, which sadly reinforces the likelihood of being left.

Suffers of BPD often feel empty inside and if the feel someone is going to leave them, they can become fearful and angry, lashing out first.

It is not a good idea to give the BPD suffer ultimatums or threaten to leaved if their behaviour doesn’t change this will only make them test the limits you set.

More next week.





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Parkinson's Disease and postured

 

Time to learn a bit more about Parkinson’s Disease this week at posture and dribbling, first off is posture. Many people thing of the characteristic posture of a slight stoop, with rounded shoulders and arms, legs, hips, and knees bent.

This posture places added strain on the joints and muscles and may cause pain.  While sitting the suffer may find themselves leaning to one sided, this one reason they should sit in chairs with arm support.  You may see a suffer waling with one arm held across the body instead of swinging normally by the side.

With concentration these problems can be corrected but sadly at times the suffer isn’t even aware they are doing these things.

Now dribbling this for me and many other suffers is distressing and it’s caused by excess saliva, it is more about how Parkinson’s reduces the amount of automatic swallowing we all do. Also, if the suffer has a posture problem causing their head to tilt forward which causes the saliva to accumulate at the front of the mouth.  People who find their head tilting forward are told to practice having their head tilted backwards.

Connected with dribbling is swallowing and swallowing can be so difficult at times due to many fac

tors including the disease itself but the drugs we take can make swallowing worse as well causing dry mouth or spasms of the muscles in the throat.