Monday, 14 July 2014

A quick comeback and being fat


Are you good with the quick come back, as in when your other half says something like what annoys me about you is that you never clean the bench off (that is Tim to me) can you think of something to say nice and quick about what they do to annoy you.

Usually I don't but only last night I did, Tim complained about how when I take my Byetta injection I sometimes leave it sitting on the bench and not move it and quick as a flash I told him that I am annoyed how he doesn't put the toaster sandwich maker away, this was because he had used it earlier and it was still sitting on the bench and you know what Tim did he just smiled and walked away.

Generally I suck with the quick come back and have to think about what he said before the comeback comes to me. I am like my mother is this regard she rarely thinks of a come back for dad when he complains about something.

Only the other day dad told mum she was fat and that was why she was having so much pain in her leg and back and she couldn't think of anything to say other than maybe, she than to little Denni into the bedroom with her while she got dressed and just stayed in the room for a while as she was upset and didn't want to go and see dad again.

Yes she knows the reason he is being so mean and picky at the moment is because that is how Prednisone makes him but still it hurt, yes mum has put on a bit of weight but she is not that fat, hell she is not as fat as me...............with all the stress of her life lately it is not surprise that she has gained a bit of weight this year but still dad shouldn't have said anything about it.

What gets me is when someone says to a person do you know you have gotten fat, well yes they know everyone knows when their weight changes we don't need other people telling us we are now fat.

When Tim says something to me about my weight I will usually tell him I have a mirror and I know what I look like. I will also point out that yes I have gone up three sizes in clothes since we first met but he has in fact gone up 6 sizes when I meet Tim he took a size 77 in pants/jeans and now he takes a 92 when we met I took a size 14-16 in jeans I know take a 18-20 in jeans.

When I remind Tim about that he will drop the topic it took me a long time to know what to say to Tim to stop him saying things that would upset me about my weight, I know he loves me but at times he can be insensitive.



18 comments:

  1. It depends on who is, sometimes I am right on it, others not so much.

    But the fat thing is ALWAYS off limits. ALWAYS.

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    1. Yes my daughters are teaching their children that fat is not a nice word to describe people

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  2. Yes. The fat thing is off limits. I totally completely agree with that. I am older and not as light as I was even 5 years ago. So far no one has said anything to me, but if they do, I will certainly have something to say back, believe you me.
    xxoo Take good care, Jo-Ann.

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    1. I may be bigger but I am still Jo-Anne my size doesn't effect who I am

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  3. The fat comment to your mom was very hurtful. Hopefully your father will apologize.

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    1. Dad doesn't remember saying it so no way he is going to apologize

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  4. I am quick and deadly with the sarcastic comeback, but most gay men are. we have to be! and wowsa y'alls sizes are crazy to me mens sizes here go by waist size I wear a 32 jean now my heaviest was 40.

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    1. I don't get clothes sizes either and women clothes sizes are the worse because a size 16 in one store may be the same as a size 14 in another store or a size 18 in a different store it is just stupid

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  5. It hurts when people are derogatory about your looks. It is rude and insensitive. Sometimes I can think of a comeback but I'm like the woman in the bath cartoon.

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    1. Yeah I think many of us think of our comeback when we are in the bath or in bed going to sleep when the moment has well and truly passed

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  6. I usually don't have a quick come-back, but lately I've noticed that if WDW says something unkind to me, I can say it back to him and it shuts him up.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. It does feel good when we can think of something to say back and can shut them up well I know I like it when it happens to me

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  7. I can never think of a good comeback. Until much later when it's too late.

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    1. Yeah that is the way I am most of the time

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  8. That was hurtful to say to your mom. Let them think it, but don't say it, please. It's not like we don't know if we are overweight.

    I have had my moments where I had the quick comeback, but most of the time I do not. I am usually taken aback. Besides, being snippy back isn't such a great thing, anyways, because then you're just being the same back to them, you know?

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    1. So true mum is still upset by the comment, and you know what if Tim said it to me dad would be really mad with Tim.

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  9. Phil and I banter all the time and we both get good jabs in. We've BOTH put on a bunch of weight....my weight gain bothers me way more than the fact that he's gained (and vice-versa). But yes, sometimes I'm that woman in the tub and kick myself for not coming up with a good response to something sooner....

    -andi

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    1. Tim and I make comments about each others weight but we are not serious and we love each other and it doesn't matter in the long run

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